Your entire world falls apart with a breakup.
But you’ll get over it. It just takes some time.
According to a new study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology, people need about three months (or 11 weeks) to get over a relationship. The study asked 155 young adults when they first started to see the positive aspects of their relationship after the breakup. And in most cases, that came after three or so months.
The three-month buffer zone applied to both those who did the dumping, and those who were broken up with by their loved one, according to the study.
“This may seem too short to some and too long to others. Remember, it’s just an average — everyone heals differently,” wrote Nicole Weaver for Psych Central. “While you might assume the one breaking things off is in a better position than the one who’s kicked to the curb, it’s not always the case."
Most people in the study said they felt more goal-oriented and had become a better person after the time had passed. According to the American Psychological Association, these are positive signs of getting over a breakup. Feeling happier and more confident helps people avoid alcohol and drug abuse issues, which are often troubles people face when their relationships end.
But maybe there is no cure for a broken heart. According to a study from the University of Aberdeen, there isn’t a conclusive cure for “broken heart syndrome,” which happens when your heart goes under major stress or a traumatic event, like a bad marriage, according to Deseret News National’s Lois Collins.