You don't have to be pregnant to be the recipient of a baby shower.
Grandmother showers — a trend designed for a woman's friends to equip her with essential grandbaby gear — are becoming increasingly popular.
According to the topics' About page, grandmother showers are typically given to first-time grandma's by their close friends or co-workers. Party etiquette suggests there be no registration, no formal invitation and gifts should be "modest."
But while grandma sits swooning over her new diaper bag, there is one person on the sidelines who isn't so thrilled: her daughter.
Many new mom's admit they feel their baby shower is the last time they will receive personal pampering, according to She Knows Parenting.
“They had their baby showers when they had kids it's the mom-to-be's turn. If Granny's friends want to give gifts, have a shower for the mom-to-be, or just send gifts. Granny had her moment in the spotlight,” a mom named Niki told She Knows Parenting.
Mary Fischer, a writer for The Stir, thinks that while it's beneficial for grandmas to house their own set of baby supplies, a grandmother shower is a bit much.
"A baby shower is basically her last hoorah before sleepless nights, shirts stained with mashed bananas, and spit-up crust in her hair. Shouldn't she at least be the only one who gets a party thrown in her honor before her little one's arrival?" Fischer wrote.
Despite many moms' irritation toward the trendy event, others are registering for double, or even triple, carseats and high chairs so their mothers will be equipped to babysit, Yahoo Shine reports.
Colleen Rickenbacher, party planner and author of etiquette books, told Grandparents that because the older generation is more financially stable, many new parents will go back to work and entrust their children with their grandparents during daytime hours.
"We're babysitting more and need to stock the house with gear," Rickenbacher said.1 comment on this story
To avoid offending the mom-to-be, some women don't invite her to the party. Instead, they keep the guest list limited to grandparents and soon-to-be grandparents.
Unless she shares the same circle of friends or neighbors as her mother, the future mom shouldn't feel bad if she doesn't attend the shower, according to About.
"Instead of having it on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon like the mom's shower, have it on a Saturday evening and invite couples for more of a cocktail party thing," Rickenbacher said.
Megan Marsden Christensen writes for the Faith and Family sections. She recently graduated from BYU-Idaho with a bachelor's degree in communication.