Dear Angela: I moved into a new ward about five months ago and I don't click with my new bishop. I don't think his jokes are funny, we don't really speak to each other, and our personalities just don't match. I'm considering moving so that I can be in different ward boundaries, or maybe only meeting with his counselors when I need something. Can you think of any better options?

— New Girl

Dear New Girl,

What happens if you move into a new ward and you still don't like your bishop? Will you move again? What if you now don't like his counselors? The Relief Society president? The building? Will you keep moving?

Moving is no good because there will always be something that isn't perfect … that's not just church; that's life.

For your situation, try making an appointment with your bishop and be like, "Hey bishop, I'm New Girl. I don't know you very well, but I'd like to so that I can feel like a valuable part of this ward." Or whatever it is you feel like you need, express it.

It may not seem like it right now, but you need the bishop and the bishop needs you. He's not a superhero, he's just a guy with a really demanding church responsibility. One day, you may be in a similar position.

What do you think about this quotation, "Even though the Lord calls his servants (in your case the bishop) by revelation, they can function only after being sustained by those they are called to serve."

Here's a link to the entire talk by President Henry B. Eyring: "Called of God and Sustained by the People."

Read it and let us know what you think.

Good luck!


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