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"Dating a Widower: Starting a Relationship with a Man Who's Starting Over" by Abel Keogh gives tips and advice on a dating a someone who has lost a spouse.

In the book, "Dating a Widower" (Ben Lomond Press, $8.99) Abel Keogh discusses this topic as an expert. After all, he was widowed nearly 10 years ago and has since remarried.

Dating is tricky enough as it is, but dating a widower has even more possible pitfalls. Women may wonder if the issues that may arise are grief-driven or simply problems that the widower is struggling with. Keogh says that often it's hard to tell.

To make the experience as smooth as possible, he suggests:

  • Women who date widowers should never feel like they're being compared or held up against the late wife. They should feel loved and respected for who they are.

  • Widowers act, behave and grieve like men. Never make excuses for bad behavior or allow him to make his date feel second best because of grief.

  • The man should always treat his date like a queen. The book says "a man who loves you will move mountains to show you how he feels and a man’s actions are worth more than a thousand of his words."

  • Learning how to communicate is essential to resolving issues and making sure the widower is ready to open his heart to you.

  • Be prepared to be patient. Every widower is different and some may need more time before they are prepared to get into a new relationship.

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