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Panelists and hosts of "The Talk", from left, Julie Chen, Leah Remini, Sara Gilbert, Sharon Osbourne, Holly Robinson Peete and Marissa Jaret Winokur participate in a discussion on the show at the CBS, Showtime and The CW Television Critics Association summer press tour in Beverly Hills, Calif., Wednesday, July 28, 2010.

Actress Holly Robinson Peete wants what any mother wants for her kids — a future in which they're safe and genuinely loved long after she is gone.

Most parents can assume their children will find that, one way or another. For Peete and her 14-year-old son, R.J., who has autism, that's no guarantee.

"As a mom, you worry about protecting your kid," Peete says. "But there are extra added layers of fears when you're talking about a kid with autism or who has some special needs issue. You worry about him being bullied, about being treated unfairly. You worry about him doing the wrong thing in public and it being misconstrued."

Peete, best known for her primetime roles on "21 Jump Street" and "Hangin' with Mr. Cooper," as well as for her hosting duties last year on CBS's daytime chat-fest "The Talk," might not love the extra worrying it brings, but she relishes her role as autism poster parent.

She wants the issues this growing segment of the population faces — the most recent estimate from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says that 1 in 88 children lands on the autism spectrum — to be part of the national conversation.

"We need more support," says Peete, who with her husband, former Detroit Lions quarterback Rodney Peete, in 1997 started the HollyRod Foundation, which helps bring awareness to autism issues, supports families and raises funds.

Q: Do you do autism workshops often?

A: I do. I do them for various reasons, but the biggest is that I feel very empowered after having spent time with families that are experiencing things we've experienced. It really helps reinvigorate my passion for what I do. It keeps me in touch with what people are saying in the autism community.

Q: Is it less confusing now, 12 years after your son's diagnosis, or more obvious where to turn?

A: Oh, it's still very confusing. Fortunately, we have some pretty great organizations that can guide you. Autism Speaks is one of them. They have 100-day kits for the first 100 days after a diagnosis for what you can do. And they have a lot of community resources and a database on their web site. You have organizations like ours, HollyRod, which gives compassionate care to families. We're working really hard to erect a compassionate care center where families can go. Hopefully that will be the model that can spread across the country. The one I look at as the Holy Grail is St. Jude, where families can go and deal with their children's cancer without having to worry about paying for it. Where is the St. Jude for autism? That's in my sights, doing something like that.

Q: There are many therapies and theories for how to treat autism. What have you tried?

A: We've tried everything. I'm hesitant to say to people what works for me because it may not work for their child. My goal is to create an environment where families can try, let's say, hyperbaric oxygen therapy, which was helpful for my kid. But at $100 a half hour or $100 an hour, no one can afford that. Our goal with HollyRod is to set up centers where people can go and try hyperbaric oxygen therapy without sacrificing the rent or tuition.

Q: What is life with R.J. like now ?

A: It's challenging because the teen hormones can really cause erratic and a little bit of regressive behavior. You feel like you've moved past a lot of things like stimming (self-stimulatory behavior like flapping, rocking or spinning) or some of the things that he's been doing as a child that you feel like you've grown out of, you're seeing that again. Also, just dealing with girls and social circles and all these things that are already a nightmare for any typical teenager or typical teenager's parents. But when you fold in autism, you have social issues that are really difficult to navigate. I try to have those conversations publicly as often as possible because, you know, we don't talk about it enough.

Q: What are you own hopes or fears for R.J. as he becomes an adult?

A: Well the biggest thing for any parent of a kid with autism, is there comes a time when more than likely we're going to go first. We're not going to be here. And that part is difficult to deal with. Because you're so fearful for what kind of community he's going to be in. It's really interesting with this whole Trayvon Martin situation. (For black families) there's certain ways you have to teach your kids to stay safe because there are certain suspicions and stereotypes. Well, with a son on the spectrum, it really scares me to death. Because I don't know that he understands how to read social cues. So if an officer says to him to get his hands out of his pocket, what if he brings something out of his pocket and it looks like a gun? It's just so frightening. What my hopes are for my son is that he is safe in a community where he is protected, where he has people who genuinely love him and look out for him and want the best for him when I can't.

Q: So what's next for your acting career? You were on "The Talk" for its inaugural season but weren't brought back.

A: I'm working to get back into daytime. I really enjoyed it. I enjoyed the format, and I felt comfortable in the genre. I didn't particularly enjoy the experience I had last year, if I'm being 100 percent honest. But I felt good at what I was doing. I'd love to do it again and I've been talking to lots of cool people to make that happen. But in the meantime, I'm having the time of my life playing a recurring character on "Mike and Molly." It's been so fun to play with those people. Melissa McCarthy (who plays Molly) is a comedy queen, and it's just been absolutely fun. It's been a nice reprieve to go back into scripted and prime time, which I have a lot of experience in. I'd love to do something with Leah Remini (who was also not brought back to the second season of "The Talk"). I thought we had tremendous chemistry, and you can't cast that.

Q: Are you staying out of the Twitter war Remini has had with Sharon Osbourne?

A: I am staying far away from that. But I think it's safe to say what side I'm on. Twitter is so crazy. It's like you're your own publicist, much to publicists' chagrin all over Hollywood.