Elder David A. Bednar of the Quorum of the Twelve gave three suggestions at the Saturday morning session of general conference for being more diligent and concerned at home.
First on Elder Bednar's list is to both express and show love.
"We can begin to become more diligent and concerned at home by telling the people we love that we love them," he said. "Such expressions do not need to be flowery or lengthy. We simply should sincerely and frequently express love. … We should remember that saying 'I love you' is only a beginning. We need to say it, we need to mean it, and most importantly we need to consistently show it. We need to both express and demonstrate love."
In Elder Bednar's eyes, a public statement of love made for a speaker's family during sacrament meeting will never by itself be adequate or sufficient.
"Such an expression of love may be appropriate," he said. "But when I hear a statement like this, I squirm and silently exclaim that the spouse and children should not be hearing this apparently rare and private communication in public at Church! Hopefully the children hear love expressed and see love demonstrated between their parents in the regular routine of daily living."
Second, Elder Bednar suggested diligence and concern at home would increase by bearing testimony and living it.
"A testimony is what we know to be true in our minds and in our hearts by the witness of the Holy Ghost (see Doctrine and Covenants 8:2). As we profess truth rather than admonish, exhort, or simply share interesting experiences, we invite the Holy Ghost to confirm the verity of our words. The power of pure testimony (see Alma 4:19) does not come from sophisticated language or effective presentation; rather, it is the result of revelation conveyed by the third member of the Godhead, even the Holy Ghost.
"Feeling the power, the edification, and the constancy of testimony from a spouse, a parent, or a child is a rich blessing. Such testimony fortifies faith and provides direction. Such testimony generates light in a world that grows increasingly dark. Such testimony is the source of an eternal perspective and of enduring peace."
The third and final suggestion espoused by Elder Bednar is to be consistent.
"Each family prayer, each episode of family scripture study, and each family home evening is a brush stroke on the canvas of our souls," he said. "No one event may appear to be very impressive or memorable. … Our consistency in doing seemingly small things can lead to significant spiritual results."
According to Elder Bednar, consistency is also important because by its very nature it gradually reduces "the disparity between what we say and what we do, between expressing love and consistently showing it, and between bearing testimony and steadfastly living it. We can become more diligent and concerned at home as we are more faithful in learning, living, and loving the restored gospel of Jesus Christ."
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