Dear Abby: I have been married to "Max" for 22 years. There were some happy times in the beginning after our children (now 20 and 24) were born, but not many since.
Max is very controlling and treats his family as objects. Our children don't like him. He doesn't have any friends. He embarrasses and humiliates me. We have poor communication because when I want to get my point across, he yells at me to shut up.
I fell out of love a long time ago but stuck around because I felt sorry for him. I thought of leaving this unhappy marriage when my children were younger, but I was afraid Max would do something horrible to them because he is vindictive. I always believed he made the children miserable as a way to get back at me.
Dear Annie: Recently, two women in our office had their first babies. Two co-workers decided to throw a joint baby shower to celebrate the new arrivals. The morning of the shower, an e-mail was sent to all the women in the office, telling us what our "fair share" of the costs was. We were all expected to chip in to pay for the cake, punch and decorations, even though this was never discussed before.
This has caused some tension in the office. The amount is not a big deal, but we are upset about the principle of sending a bill to people who weren't involved in the planning. Most of us already spent money on gifts.
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