Dear Annie: My 28-year-old niece, "Jane," has suffered from low self-esteem and depression since she was 14. She is currently seeing a psychiatrist and taking medication for attention deficit disorder. She is "wired" on this drug. She accomplishes her assignments at her job, but she sometimes takes more medication than the amount prescribed and then runs out before renewal time. When she is not on the drug, she becomes almost comatose. She'll sleep for days and cannot be easily awakened. Then she loses her job because when she doesn't show up for days, she is fired.
My sister worries herself sick about Jane and doesn't know what to do. Jane resents any suggestion of help and just says she wants to die. She has seen several psychologists and psychiatrists. Two said she was bipolar and another said she's not. Manic depression runs in our family.
Dear Annie: I want you to meet the most stupid woman in the world: me.
My 37-year-old son, his girlfriend and their 14-year-old daughter all live with my husband and me. Maybe once in a blue moon my son might give me some money toward the heating bill. His girlfriend doesn't work, so she cannot help out.
My husband is 78 and retired. I'm 65 and don't know who would feed these people if I stopped working. I can hear you shaking your head from here. The reason I put up with this is my granddaughter. I love her more than life, and I think these two freeloaders know it, so I am being held hostage emotionally.
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