Is there anything more beautiful and more uncomfortable than changing your mind? I read a quote once that stuck with me: "If you never change your mind, why have one?"
So brace yourself. You may just change your mind on this one.
I say may because you may not, of course. That's what makes it beautiful. The uncertainty. You may be moved, as I was, to see the issue differently after you hear from the women on "A Woman's View," or you may not. Either way is fine.
Let's see what happens.
The issue is shopping on Thanksgiving. More and more retailers are opening earlier and earlier. Black Friday, which used to start at the crack of dawn on Friday morning, began starting so early that it isn't Friday at all — it's Thursday. Thanksgiving. Which means employees of these stores have to work on Thanksgiving, something at least some of them don't want to do, and a vocal few of that number have started a petition to stop the practice.
They want these stores to stop opening on Thanksgiving so they don't have to work, so they can be with their families, and many thousands of people have signed petitions to support them.
My first impression was unconditional support. Where do I sign?
"Let's do a 'what if?' " suggested Chris Redgrave, senior vice president of communications with Zions Bank. "What if you're single and don't have a lot to do on Thanksgiving? Not everybody has a 'Leave It to Beaver' family life."
"Or they don't want to be with their family. 'Please call me in!' " Julie de Azevedo Hanks joked. She is the owner and clinical director of Wasatch Family Therapy.
"There are a lot of people who need the money right now," Redgrave continued. "Would it really be that bad to work four hours and get to earn time and a half?"
"Let the market do its thing," Hanks said. "I wouldn't want to work myself. So I get that. But I'm a business owner. I'm a boss. If you don't like how it is, I'll find someone who will. Businesses need to do what they need to do to make it work."
"We're just not in a position right now to tell people when they can be open and when they should be closed," Redgrave continued. "People are choice-makers. For some people, it's a day off, their only time to do some Christmas shopping."
Then the artist in the group, Pamela Nielsen, summed it up. "We think everybody thinks like we do, but they don't. We think everybody acts like we do, but they just don't."
That was my mistake. I had assumed everyone would think like I do. Wouldn't everyone want to be with their family? Wouldn't everyone want the chance to be home, enjoying a turkey and some bad football, maybe putting up the tree if they didn't think that was too early?
No. No, they wouldn't. I would. I am blessed with a husband and five children who want to be with me that day, a family who will wait anxiously for the turkey to be done, who will pester me about making a pumpkin pie AND a pecan pie, and the moist stuffing, not the dry kind. I am blessed.
But I remember not so long ago when I was alone, when I would have been grateful for a job to go to on a holiday, a work "family" to be with, people to serve, co-workers to share a Diet Coke and something from the vending machine with in lieu of a honey baked ham.
I would have been grateful for the extra hours, the extra pay, the chance to pass the day without having to call quite so much attention to the fact that I'm alone.
We think everybody thinks like we do, but they may not. They may be grateful for the chance to not be alone, to have the excuse of having to work as a way to escape the loneliness that would have marked the day. And there may be people who want to shop that day for the exact same reason.
This week I am grateful for my family, for all of our families, wherever we find them, at home around dinner tables, or at work amidst sale items and co-workers. I give thanks.
And I see things differently now.
Amanda Dickson co-hosts "Utah's Morning News with Grant and Amanda" on KSL Newsradio. Amanda also hosts the award winning program "A Woman's View," heard Sunday mornings on KSL.