1. Doing housework together

2. Driving your kids to school

3. Reading a bedtime story together

4. Bathing your kids

5. Sharing wash-up time

6. Standing in line at the market

7. Taking a walk together

8. Spending time together first thing in the morning

9. Working on a project together

10. Playing a game

Source: "The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids" By Dr. Jenn Berman, New World Library.

Our culture largely chooses flash over substance. Kids today are encouraged to wear the "right" shoes, carry the coolest lunch box and wear designer clothes before they are even old enough to walk. Character development is being overlooked. Here are 10 of the most important characteristics for your child to develop:

1. Values and morals

2. The ability to delay gratification

3. Understanding and expectation of the consequences of his actions

4. Empathy toward others

5. A strong work ethic

6. A willingness to face consequences

7. The ability to learn from failures

8. An ability to take responsibility for mistakes

9. A tolerance for negative feedback

10. The ability to tolerate frustration

Source: "The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids" by Dr. Jenn Berman, New World Library

• Set consistent rules. Don't announce a punishment you will not follow through on. Children need structure to feel safe. All rules should apply to all your children equally.

• Create a calm and nonviolent home atmosphere. Children can thrive and learn to trust only when they feel safe.

• Ask your child his opinions. Show your child you value his opinions by asking questions.

• Spend focused time together. Children are sensitive to an adult's distracted mind. Turn off the television, put away the Blackberry and don't answer the phone for a few hours so you can spend focused time together.

• Help your child find her passions. Allowing your child to engage in an activity that she enjoys will bolster her self-identity and help her to develop a sense of mastery.

• Apologize if you say something mean or hurtful to your child. Show your child how to make amends so that he knows how to do it himself. You don't have to be perfect, and your child will benefit from seeing how you behave when you make a mistake.

Source: "The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids" by Dr. Jenn Berman, New World Library

• Give honest and specific praise. Offering this kind of praise helps your child feel seen and appreciated.

• Reframe your child's idiosyncrasies. Your child looks to you to know how to perceive herself. If you let your "loud child who asks too many questions" know you see her as "passionate and curious" instead, she may see herself differently.

• Show up for your kid. Show up when you say you will, and make sure to attend important events such as school plays, sporting events and piano recitals.

• Leave your child notes. When your child is old enough to read, leave her notes or letters encouraging her and reminding her that you love her.