Dear Annie: My daughter, "Felicia," is extremely bright, beautiful and has a wonderful heart. However, I am concerned about her choice in boyfriends.
Felicia tends to take on the characteristics of whomever she is dating. She was engaged to "Bob" for five years. Bob never finished high school, had no intention of getting a GED and moved from one job to another. He had no driver's license or car, so my daughter ferried him everywhere. Eventually she discovered Bob had been lying about a job and had stolen $1,000 from her bank account. When she confronted him, he became angry, took her car and managed to wreck it to the tune of $3,000. He then called on his way out of state and said he would not be back.
Felicia worked very hard getting herself together. But now she has a new boyfriend whom she met about a month ago and the nightmare is beginning all over again. "Sam" has no education, has lost his job and will not communicate with my husband or me. He is uncouth and low class, and Felicia is beginning to behave just like him. Her best girlfriend has noticed it, too.
Dear Annie: My husband and I enjoy having friends and family visit, since we've been blessed with a nicer home than we've ever had. We are not rolling in dough, but we've worked hard to achieve our goals, and I'm very frugal in my shopping habits.
The problem is, many of our houseguests, who obviously enjoy staying at what may seem like a vacation home, think we have a money tree growing out back. They often invite themselves for a weekend stay, show up empty-handed and expect three full meals a day. Once I offered some relatives cereal and fruit for breakfast and they ignored me. But when I broke out the last of my eggs, they went gaga and asked, "Where's the sausage?"
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