LEHI Kristy Ragsdale was the kind of person who would pick out movies for a bed-ridden friend, be the first to befriend the new girl in town and bake cookies for a neighbor.
She was also, friends said at a memorial service Saturday, the kind of person who would forgive her husband, David Ragsdale, who is accused of shooting her 10 times outside of a Lehi church, for murdering her on her 30th birthday.
"If Kristy were left to invite us to do one thing, I think it would be the same thing the Savior would ask of us," said Russell Rhoades, the Ragsdales' next-door neighbor. "I think she would ask us to forgive him."
Rhoades sobbed openly as he related, to a tearful congregation of about 1,000 people, a conversation he had with Kristy Ragsdale's mother, Ann Palizzi, who was with her daughter at the time of the shooting Jan. 6. Driving together in Kristy Ragsdale's minivan on the way to the meetinghouse for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints that morning, the two felt impressed to express their love for one another.
"When she arrived at the church at that darkest moment, she did not feel alone," Rhoades said.
The evening after the shooting, Palizzi told Rhoades she felt Kristy's presence.
"The message was that Kristy had forgiven Dave," he said.
Friends used many different words to describe Kristy Ragsdale gorgeous, amazing, fireball, determined, blunt, sensitive and bubbly.
Family members described her as both a "gale force hurricane" and a "gentle breeze." All agreed, though, that she built her life around making others happy.
"Sister Ragsdale had a talent for serving others," said James Davidson, bishop of the couple's LDS ward, Lehi 36th.
Kristy Ragsdale had an uncanny way of knowing just when a friend needed a note or a phone call, Davidson said. She poured love into raising her two little boys, Brandon, 4, and Carter, 19 months.
"I'll let you know that Sister Ragsdale's legacy is one that can be continued," he said. "Care a little more, extend that phone call or stop by a home. Make it a goal in your life to serve."
She was also passionate about her church service.
When Kristy Ragsdale accepted the job of directing the ward choir, she told the bishop, apprehensively checking the room to make sure no one overheard, "We're not very good, but we can get better," Davidson said.
"Now we have one of the best choirs I've ever heard," he said, chuckling fondly.
The choir, which Kristy Ragsdale spent so many hours coaching, sang a medley at the memorial service. It was one of four musical selections at the funeral.
Music was an important part of Kristy Ragsdale's life, said her cousin, Judd Simpson. He described her frequent singing as "angelic."
The only girl in a family of five children, Kristy Ragsdale considered herself a "princess," Simpson said. She loved makeup and beautiful clothes.
"She made everyone around her feel like her best friend," Simpson said.
Douglas Muir, Kristy Ragsdale's LDS stake president, urged mourners to forgo passing judgment on David Ragsdale, 35, who is under investigation for capital murder. Friends and family should focus instead, he said, on the church's teachings of resurrection and life after death.
"I know with all of my heart that God is perfectly just and perfectly merciful," he said. "May we leave all judgment in his hands."In lieu of flowers, the family requests that mourners make donations to a Wells Fargo trust fund for the couple's two children.
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