My boyfriend says he loves me and that he wants to be with me when he's older but doesn't want to be with me now. What should I do? —Maddie, 16, Athens, Wis.

No matter how good it feels when your boyfriend says he wants to be with you later on, it still hurts big-time when he says he doesn't want to be with you now. And even though you don't want to be upset with him, it's kind of hard not to be, right?

First tell him how you feel. Let him know that this situation upsets you. Do you feel comfortable with the possibility of breaking up and getting back together in the future? If not, tell him! Let him know that you might not be available when he decides he's ready, and ask him if he's willing to take that chance. We have to warn you, he might not change his mind — and you might have to prepare to break up.

It's never easy, but if he's not taking your feelings into consideration and doesn't seem to want to be with you right now, he's not worth your time. You don't want to be with someone who's going to put you on the back burner and risk losing you — you're worth more than that!

I'm always on the computer, spending hours on Facebook and MySpace. I have friends, but none of them ever want to hang out, so I'm on the Internet 24/7. I feel like I can actually be myself when I'm talking online. I think I have a problem, though: Yesterday I was online from 8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. Help! —Mandy, 15, Little Rock, Ark.

Step away from the computer, Mandy! It's totally OK to go online every day, but if you're spending an entire day on Facebook and MySpace, you might have a problem. Surfing the Web and chatting with friends is fun, but it shouldn't take over your life.

Just think about it: In the time you've spent looking at photos and reading messages, you could have actually been making memories — not just catching up on them.

If you can't get your friends to hang out, then maybe they aren't the right friends for you. Move on to new people who will actually go with you to the mall or to a football game to scope out your crush! Those are the types of friends you want anyway. And as far as your feeling more comfortable talking online, that will change with some time away from it. Try to limit yourself to one hour a day for the next few months to force yourself to go out. Once you're having fun with friends, hanging out will feel totally natural because you'll have way more to talk about!


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