Dear Annie: I have been dating a wonderful man for about four years. "Sam" treats me with respect and is very caring, but he never pays his bills on time. He has a great job, but several times in the past I have had to bail him out. He will pay a portion of his bills and leave the rest to be added on to the next monthly statement. Once, he didn't have enough money to pay his rent, so I assisted. He always pays me back, but that is not the point.
Sam's mother was evicted from her apartment because she didn't pay her rent. She now lives with him. She has a good job but spends all her spare time at a casino. No one is willing to say she has a gambling problem, and this might be why she is homeless.I cannot consider a future with Sam unless he can handle his money better. I don't want to be a fall-back person for someone who is financially irresponsible. What do you say? Wondering in the World
Dear Wondering: Sam apparently learned his fiscal habits from his mother. It's possible he can be taught to be more responsible, but he must understand it's a problem that requires work. He can find a financial counselor through the National Foundation for Credit Counseling (nfcc.org or 1-800-388-2227) to help him set up a budget and see if he can live within his means. Give him the chance to improve the situation before you make any decisions about your future.
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