Dear Abby: Today's news is filled with tragic events in the lives of many families, yet little is said about where families can turn for help. I would like to let you and your readers know about "Because I Love You" (BILY), a not-for-profit parent support group.
Parents come to our meetings with problems with their children such as substance abuse, running away, truancy, and verbal and physical abuse. Our goal is to provide the tools that reunite dysfunctional families.We hold meetings in many states and provide referrals to professional and non-professional resources such as rehab centers, shelters and other self-help groups. Our services are free. We have no paid employees, only concerned parents who volunteer their time and experience.
More information about Because I Love You is available on our Web site at: (www.becauseiloveyou.org). Our e-mail address is: firstname.lastname@example.org, or send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to BILY, P.O. Box 473, Santa Monica, Calif. 90406.
- Dennis Poncher, Founder,
Because I Love You.
Dear Dennis: I am pleased to help spread the word. I know that my readers who are experiencing problems with their children will benefit from learning about your organization. You provide an important service, and I wish you continued success.
Dear Abby: This is in reponse to "Anonymous, Naturally," who complaind about straggling shoppers who come in three minutes before closing time and expect to "shop the entire store." I encounter this situation at least once a week.
I also work in a busy department store. We have a public address system like the one you suggested. At 8:45 p.m., we start announcing that the fitting room is closing, and then repeat the announcement every five minutes until 9 p.m. Customers just keep walking through the store and continue shopping. When we remind them that the stroe is closed and offer to help them find an item, we get nasty, rude remarks or dirty looks.
People complain about how rude clerks are in stores. Well, mybe they should look at themselves. Some of them are unbelievably insensitive.
How do you get the message across to people like that, Abby?
- Just About Had It in California
Dear Just: I was astonished at the number of letters I received from salespeople telling similar stories.
If the problem is as widespread as all of you indicate, it may not be resolved until store owners shut down their computers at closing time and inform customers that their pur-chases will have to be rung up the next day. It is management's job to strike a balance between being consumer-friendly and being fair to staff.
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