DEAR ABBY: (I can't believe I've actually written those words.) I'm a 36-year-old divorced woman - no children by choice. I won't bore you with the story of my failed marriage. I just want you to know I was in love with "Gary" when I married him and tried my best to make our marriage work, but he never was a one-woman man and I couldn't change him. End of story.
I've been single for nearly two years and can honestly say I was not looking for another marriage because I have a flourishing little business of my own and enjoy my independence. Well, you guessed it. I met a man five months ago, and I am walking on air! So what's my problem? Abby, he's 26 years old. He has everything I have ever wanted in a man and he's talking marriage.Am I crazy? Will it work? I'm not worried about what people will say, but I'm wondering what will happen when he's 46 and I'm 56. Or when he's 56 and I'm 66? What do you think? - WALKING ON AIR
DEAR WALKING: Run - do not walk - to wherever Pocket Books paperbacks are sold and buy "Loving a Younger Man" by Victoria Houston, who did just that (second time around). And if you don't think it's worth $4.50, I'll send your money back.
DEAR ABBY: Another holiday has passed, and my children again overdosed on sugar. Why do people think they have to give candy to children on every holiday? I suppose it's considered a treat, when actually it is torture to the children's parents. We know that too much sugar is bad for children's teeth as well as their bodies, yet adults continue to reward children with candy, cookies, etc.
There are many other things we can give children. Let's cut the sugar and get more creative. - GLUCOSE MAMA IN WEBSTER GROVES, MO.
DEAR MAMA: I agree, there are far better gifts for children. For example, books - to nourish and expand their minds, instead of their behinds.
DEAR ABBY: I loved the letter from the English clergyman who had had enough hugging from strangers.
I am also from England and joined a church here in California when I emigrated. Some years ago, we had a minister who advocated hugging all and sundry when we entered the church on Sunday morning.
I also felt it bespoke false intimacy and kept out of it as much as possible, for which I was severely criticized by some. (I was English, therefore "cold.")
The minister left our church, and shortly after, left his wife and four children for a member of his new congregation - so obviously somewhere his hugging must have gotten out of hand.
It is nice to be greeted warmly by one's friends and associates, but for the others, a more moderate approach will do. In fact, somewhere between kissing and hugging, and shooting! - LEILA IN GRANADA HILLS
DEAR ABBY: My fiance recently became an ensign in the U.S. Navy. We are planning to marry soon and he wants to wear his uniform instead of a regular tuxedo. It's going to be a formal church wedding. None of the males in the wedding party are in the military, so my fiance will be the only one in uniform.
Do you think it will look tacky if the groom is the only one in a uniform? Please hurry your answer. - TERRI IN QUINCY, MASS.
DEAR TERRI: Tacky? Absolutely not. A uniform is considered appropriate attire for any formal occasion. Good luck and anchors aweigh!
C) 1988 Universal Press Syndicate