DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced woman living on a very low disability income. My grown son lives with me. I try to conserve on everything I can, but he uses water and gas to heat the water for the 20-minute shower he takes every morning. He works 40 hours a week, goes to the YMCA to work out, and he's with his girlfriend the rest of the time. He eats all his meals out, but he comes home to sleep. The minute he gets home, he turns the TV on, and leaves it on while he sleeps! He often falls asleep with the lights on.
He runs up my electric bill with his radio, electric hair blower and his electric shaver. And he can't take a drink of water without letting the water run for five minutes. He's too lazy to look up telephone numbers, so he calls information, which is charged to my bill. (Can't he add?)He gives me a lousy $20 a week out of the $160 take-home pay he gets, and he complains yet. I think he's getting a good deal. If you agree with me, please print this so I can show it to my son. - FED UP
DEAR FED UP: Here's your letter. Clip it and pin it on your son's pillow. Or tape it to his shower curtain, his hair blower, his television set, his light switch or his telephone. Your son should not complain. YOU should. I think you're entitled to more.
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have a disagreement that perhaps you can resolve.
Our disagreement comes about because when we are watching TV, I regularly use the mute button to tune out the commercials. My wife says this is wrong - that if I watch the programs, I ought to listen to the sponsor's commercials.
My attitude is that the companies that control television programming abuse the airwaves by using an inordinate number of commercials, most of which are inherently deceptive, and that I am under no obligation to listen to this trash.
Which one of us is right? - "THE CLICKER" IN PALM SPRINGS
DEAR CLICKER: Whether or not one chooses to listen to the TV commercials is a personal decision. You are entitled to your opinion and your wife is entitled to hers. And if this is the most serious disagreement you ever have, count yourselves lucky.
DEAR ABBY: My wife and I agreed to chip in with a group of friends to buy a 50th wedding anniversary gift for a couple we have known for many years. The group giving this gift consists of eight married couples and one widow.
One member of our group - not the widow - adamantly insists that the cost of the gift should be divided by 17. We think it should be divided by nine.
What do you think? - IN DOUBT IN ARIZONA
DEAR IN DOUBT: Is the widow's deceased husband going to be at the anniversary party? Of course not. Therefore the cost of the gift should be divided by 17 - each couple paying two shares, leaving the widow with one.
DEAR ABBY: I was the "pen pal czar" for Operation Dear Abby while I was command chaplain for USS Coral Sea, and I shall always remember with fondness the excitement created by the thousands of letters we received daily after you launched your letter-writing campaign in 1987. What a terrific morale booster that was!
Numerous servicemen (and women) developed romances through those letters that ended in marriage. May 6 will mark nearly one and a half years since John Frakes answered a letter from Kathy McQuiston of New Castle, Pa. And by the time you read this, they will be married. Keep up the good work, Abby! - MICHAEL D. HALLEY, COMMAND CHAPLAIN