DEAR ABBY: I am a 16-year-old girl and I want to drop out of school. Some people tell me I shouldn't drop out and some say I'm wasting my time in school. (I am not a very good student.)
Can you give me some pointers on how to make school easier for me so I won't have to drop out? I got kicked out of school for two semesters and right now it is very hard for me. I have only 30 credits and it will take me a while to graduate.I am so far behind now, I feel like calling it quits. I have a hard time getting up in the morning and hate taking all that hassle for falling so far behind in my schoolwork. It would be a lot easier to just quit and find some kind of job. Lots of people make it without a high school diploma.
Please tell me what to do. MIXED UP IN BAY CITY, MICH.
DEAR MIXED UP: You are not as "mixed up" as you say you are. The person who asks for help is thinking clearly and wants some input before making an important decision.
Drop out? No way! Go to your teachers and tell them that you are determined to stay in school and graduate. Ask for their suggestions. (You may need tutoring.) Concentrate on your schoolwork and do not permit yourself to sleep late - force yourself to get out of bed in the morning. It may take you a while to graduate, but it will be worth it. (It's the exceptional genius who can "make it" without a high school diploma.) Hang in there and good luck.
DEAR ABBY: My fiance and I are planning a simple, intimate wedding in my home, after which we will depart for a brief but romantic honeymoon.
A longtime friend of mine told me not to arrange anything for our wedding night because she wanted to take care of it. When I asked her what she had in mind, she told me it was going to be a surprise - that I would have to "trust" her.
Well, neither my fiance nor I want any surprises on our wedding night, so after much consternation, I finally gathered my courage and told my friend that I appreciated her generosity, but our honeymoon plans had already been made, so she shouldn't plan any "surprises" for our wedding night.
Her reaction was a mixture of hurt and hostility. Abby, do you think we acted reasonably in declining her offer? Or should we have gone along with her surprise?
She was so offended that I didn't "trust" her that our friendship has cooled to the point that she is barely speaking to me.
Was I wrong? Should I have let her surprise me? HATES SURPRISES
DEAR HATES: You were not wrong. This friend was very presumptuous to try to intrude herself on your wedding night. You owe her no apologies.
DEAR ABBY: A couple we know were recently married. Yesterday we received their wedding invitation - it was postmarked two days after the wedding.
Several months ago, they told us they were keeping their wedding very small - just family members and a few very close friends, which apparently we were not.
Are we supposed to acknowledge this purposely late invitation with a gift? I think if they really wanted us at their wedding, they would have sent the invitation on time. If not, they could have sent an announcement. How do you feel about it? FEELING SLIGHTED
DEAR FEELING: Same as you. Send a congratulatory card and wish them well.