Stability gives people confidence to accept change and incorporate that which is good.
That was the message hundreds of participants heard Friday during the closing session of the annual Women's Conference at Brigham Young University.Elaine L. Jack, second counselor in the Young Women General Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, said, "Stability is possible in these times. Through testimony, friendship, charity, progression, and maturity we can maintain lasting stability which will endure despite the clatter of these changing times.
"As I define stability, it is not inflexibility or resistance to positive change. It does not mean fewer choices or avoiding challenges.
"Stability is constancy - of character or purpose, tenacity, steadfastness, reliability and dependability. It is a grounding, a rooting or anchor. Unfortunately, stability seems rarer and rarer as life goes faster and faster."
The five anchors that Jack said help stabilize her life are testimony, relationships with others, charity, progress and maturity.
"Stability is the fruit of internalizing the gospel, of listening, praying, searching, lifting up our voices to attain wisdom from the Lord. I feel grateful that from my own girlhood I learned who I was, that God's love transcends change. Such knowledge brings stability."
Her second anchor is relationships with others. "Friends are very valuable to me. Friends multiply my store of knowledge in the most pleasant ways. There is so much I want to learn and with friends I am free to ask questions and to be nurtured in an encouraging way."
Friends are gifts from the Lord which bring stability to her life, Jack said. Friendships are enhanced through exercising charity - another of her anchors.
"Charity is the context for all we do, for it is our major means of becoming Christlike. If charity is the pure love of Christ, then learning its laws is the way to know more about our Savior. No pursuit will bring more stability to our lives than this.
"I can feel good about myself if I can detect that in some way I am a better person today than I was a year ago. An awareness of progression, even if it is small in the eyes of the world, provides the stabilizing sense of worth I need."
Nourishing the body and soul is essential, even if everyone's methods of doing so may vary.
"Stability comes in my life when I focus on the things that are mine to do. We discover what those things are by asking the right questions."
The fifth anchor, maturity, is what allows acceptance of self even when you are not all you would want to be, she said.
"Such maturity allows us to accept who and where we are. This same maturity can give us the moral courage to make our actions consistent with our knowledge of right and wrong."