DEAR ABBY: My fifth high school reunion is coming up soon and I want very much to go, but here's the problem: I met "Bob" years ago while I was on vacation and we were married a year later.

Bob grew up where the boys and girls never mixed much, and he is outrageously jealous.I know that if I were to hug a male classmate, or even touch him, Bob would make a scene. (He could not understand our graduation pictures-- with boys and girls holding hands. "Touching" to him is off-limits.)

We have a good marriage, but I must be on my guard constantly so Bob won't get the wrong idea. The first "Do you remember?" is sure to send him into a jealous rage. How can I make him understand that these schoolmates are only friends?


DEAR TORN: You can't "make" Bob understand anything he doesn't want to. If touching an old schoolmate and the first "Do you remember?" will set him into a jealous rage, I think you'd be wise to skip the reunion.

You say you have a good marriage. How good is a marriage if you dare not be friendly for fear of making your husband jealous?

Bob needs counseling. You should persuade hiim to get it, unless you don't mind walking on eggshells the rest of your married life.

DEAR ABBY: I read with interest your response to "Good Citizen" in the Great Falls Tribune. The question concerned the power of officers to arrest drunk drivers.

In your answer, you gave an example of a Los Angeles officer investigating a driver who is slumped over the steering wheel (presumably drunk and passed out) while the car is stationary. Apparently, in L.A., this person could be arrested only for being drunk in public, but not for drunken driving.

In Montana and some other states, such as Missouri, Indiana, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Utah, Ohio and Arizona, the courts claim the drunk person slumped over the steering wheel of the car would be considered in actual physical control of the vehicle and would, therefore, be arrested for drunk driving. --ALBERT E. COKE, DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE, HELENA, MONT.

DEAR MR. COKE: I applaud the law courts for their wisdom.