Sally Struthers didn't really grow up in Queens. "Because of `All in the Family' (on which she played Gloria), when I come to New York and people stop and ask me for directions, they're always surprised when I don't know," she said. "That's because I was born in Portland, Oregon, and raised in Southern California." She was in New York this week at the F.A.O. Schwarz toy store at a party for Teddy Grahams, a new line of Teddy Bear-shaped cookies.