DEAR ABBY: I am a 28-year-old, reasonably attractive woman. I dress stylishly and wear subtle makeup. I am very nearsighted and wear glasses because I can't tolerate hard or soft contact lenses. (Believe me, I have tried.)
Abby, it infuriates me when men (whether they are dates or not), casual acquaintances or co-workers think I should feel complimented when they say, "You'd be much prettier without your glasses."I am sometimes tempted to say, "And you'd be even more handsome with a little more hair on your head - or less padding around your middle." Or, "You'd be a much nicer person if you had better manners!"
Abby, please tell these oafs to look in a mirror before they start giving women fashion advice. Thanks. - FOUR EYES AND WELL-ADJUSTED
DEAR WELL-ADJUSTED: Resist that old saw, "The best defense is a good offense."
Heed the wise words of author Letty Cottin Pogrebin: "Men who never make passes at women with glasses are asses." Also consider the advantage for those who wear glasses: In a romantic situation, when the glasses are removed, it's a clear signal that someone is going to get kissed!
DEAR ABBY: Until last fall, I was a registered voter in Clackamas County, Ore. After you urged people to vote, I decided to reregister after changing my address to the local jail where I am being held pending trial, since address changes are required to be recorded.
The response I received was a note attached to a photocopy that stated, "I am unable to process your registration until you have completed your sentence." It was attached to a copy of a citation of Oregon law that, in effect, stated that a person with a felony conviction loses the right to vote during the term of imprisonment.
As "Illinois Voter" stated (in your column), "If each community made it easier to vote, more people would vote."
It took letters to the Elections Division, assistant county attorney and Clackamas County clerk, as well as secretary of state and then-Gov.-Elect Barbara Roberts - but I continue to be a registered voter as of Dec. 17, 1991, as the laws of the state and the nation provide.
Civil rights for all! - NO. 90-2310
DEAR "90": Convicted felons are denied the right to vote, but one is presumed innocent until proven guilty.
DEAR ABBY: I am a 40-year-old woman who has finally met "Mr. Wonderful." We are discussing marriage. It will be my first.
My mother, a widow, lives in another state where I grew up. She's financially comfortable and has considerable savings. I make a very good salary, have a secure job and some savings.
At this point in my life, who should pay for my wedding? Also, should I be married here or back in my home state? - LUCKY IN GEORGIA
DEAR LUCKY: Since your mother is financially "comfortable" and has considerable savings, if she offers to pay for your wedding, let her. If she doesn't offer, pay for it yourself.
If you have family and friends in your home state and want to be married there, do so. On the other hand, you probably have many friends - plus business colleagues - in the city in which you dwell, and it is far more convenient to plan a wedding in the city where you live.
Additionally, consider "Mr. Wonderful." If his friends and family live in Georgia, that's another good reason for being married there.