DEAR ABBY: Here's a suggestion for "Anonymous, Please," the man who will be celebrating his 50th wedding anniversary soon and wanted to request that the guests bring no gifts.

Last year we were confronted with the same situation for our 25th. Knowing that guests would bring gifts anyway, we suggested they bring canned goods for the needy. Our invitations read:"Your love and friendship is the only gift we need. However, if you wish to bring something, please make it an item of food that will be donated to the needy."

Abby, we were overwhelmed by the generosity of our friends! We hauled 10 boxes of canned goods and almost $200 in cash down to the local "soup kitchen" that feeds the homeless and needy.

What a great party we had - filled with family and friends who made it all the more beautiful by sharing with those less fortunate. You may use my name. - ELEANOR BURLEY, STERLING HEIGHTS, MICH.

DEAR ELEANOR: That suggestion appeared in my column two years ago, but it's worth repeating periodically. Thank you, Eleanor. And may you celebrate many more happy anniversaries.

DEAR ABBY: I'm writing to offer some advice to younger readers regarding dating:

I am 27, and ever since I was in high school, I adopted my own personal code for dating. It is: Any guy who asks me out I will go with at least once - unless I have reason to believe he could be dangerous.

Since then, I have helped some very shy guys develop their self-confidence, and I've established some good friendships and a few meaningful relationships.

Not every date has been great - a few have been real duds - but if a guy asks me out, at least I give him a chance. (Accepting a date doesn't mean you have to marry anyone.)

Also, after the first date, I generally insist on paying my share of the tab. I'm not rich - I'm a middle-class working woman - but I know how expensive dating is for most guys.

I haven't met Mr. Right yet, but in the meantime, I'm enjoying myself. - CYNTHIA IN GEORGIA

DEAR CYNTHIA: It's easy to see why you're not sitting at home, waiting for your telephone to ring. You're a giver, not a taker. You appear to be a young woman who likes herself and is comfortable to be around.

There are two kinds of people in the world - those who walk into a room and say, "There you are" - and those who say, "Here I am!" You belong in the "there you are" category. You could give lessons.

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