DEAR ABBY: Here's some consolation for the wife in Georgia who worked to put her husband through medical school, and after he became a successful surgeon, he left her.
She should see an aggressive matrimonial attorney. She is entitled to child support, and she is entitled to a share of his medical practice as equitable distribution of that marital asset to which she contributed by being a wife through his years of schooling. She is also probably entitled to have him pay for her attorney fees. Her best remedy and consolation lie in the courts. Best of luck to her. - NEW YORK ATTORNEYDEAR ATTORNEY: Her best luck would be to have a lawyer like you to look after her.
DEAR ABBY: I heard you had a letter in your column many years ago about a young Jewish man who fell in love with a non-Jewish girl. She agreed to convert to Judaism and raise their children in the Jewish faith on the condition that he become a practicing Jew. If you can find it, please run it again. - BACK TO THE FAITH IN CLEVELAND
DEAR BACK TO THE FAITH: I had to go back 10 years to find it, and here it is:
DEAR ABBY: I am Jewish, 33, was raised in the Jewish faith and had the bar mitzvah when I was 13. However, I do not attend services except on the high holy days once a year.
Last year I fell in love with a wonderful non-Jewish girl. Connie is 19 and an atheist. I want to marry her, and out of respect to my parents I want to be married in our synagogue by the rabbi who has been a family friend for many years. The problem is, the rabbi can't marry us unless Connie converts to Judaism.
She is willing, and even agrees to raise our children in the Jewish faith providing I become a practicing Jew. She says if she takes the Jewish faith she will follow it, but she's not going to be the only Jew in the family. This means attending services every Friday night and observing all the holidays.
What do you think? - DAVID
DEAR DAVID: I think she's terrific. Grab her!
DEAR ABBY: Why are slow eaters in the U.S.A. given the rush act in restaurants? Apparently the staff has been instructed to remove each dinner plate as soon as each diner has finished eating.
Uncomfortably, the slow eater must finish eating at a table that has been cleared of all the dishes except his or her own.
Abby, you could be a big help by suggesting that the servers follow the European custom of allowing all the plates to remain on the table until the last eater has finished. It would make restaurant dining much more gracious and comfortable. - SLOW EATER IN TUCSON
DEAR SLOW EATER: I would not presume to tell the waiters and waitresses of Tucson (or any other city) how and when to clear their tables.
If you are eating at a fast-food establishment with customers waiting to be seated, I can understand the "rush act." But in a restaurant where customers come to dine leisurely, if the server starts to remove the dishes before everyone has finished eating, simply say, with the utmost courtesy, "Would you please wait until everyone has finished eating before removing the dishes?"