DEAR ABBY: I must inform you that you gave some wrong information to the wife who learned that her husband was having an affair with his secretary. (You suggested that the wife insist that her husband let the secretary go.)
The first part of your advice, that both of them seek counseling, was fine. However, he would be in more hot water if he were to let his secretary go.A suit claiming discrimination was filed with the EEOC by a secretary who admitted to having an affair with her executive boss (who fired her when it ended) and was upheld by the court. The court agreed that it takes two to have an affair and that both parties should receive equal justice. The company that fired her was required to reinstate her job, pay all her back pay, plus a stiff fine for singling her out for punishment.
The point is very clear: You cannot legally punish one person when two are equally guilty. - GEORGE FREBERT, PRESIDENT, DOVER LITHO PRINTING CO., DOVER, DEL.
DEAR MR. FREBERT: Oops! Thanks for setting me straight. Since the most practical solution (get "Juliet" out of "Romeo's" office) is illegal, I would hope that the boss, who in this case owned the company, would find the secretary another position of equal prestige and pay.
DEAR ABBY: I need your advice on how to handle a touchy situation. I'm a 22-year-old female. My girlfriend (she's 25) has a 9-year-old son who has a major crush on me. It's so bad that when he sees me with a male friend, he gets so jealous, tears form in his eyes. On one occasion, he cried for hours and even stayed home from school the next day.
His mother and I are unsure about how to handle his jealousy. Could you please print a solution for me and others who may have this same problem? - SACRAMENTO HEARTBREAKER
DEAR HEARTBREAKER: Don't put the boy down or ridicule his feelings. They are natural. (A boy's first crush is usually his mother - and a girl's first crush is usually her father.) Fortunately, children soon outgrow these transitory crushes, but while those feelings are present, a little extra tender, loving attention and an opportunity to let this young Lochinvar talk about his feelings might make him feel better.
DEAR ABBY: Here is a timely poem for you. I've had it for quite a while and don't know who wrote it. - KAY IN TACOMA
I'll always be remembered
Wherever I may roam,
My presence will be noted,
My whereabouts be known.
I'll never be abandoned,
Deserted or dismissed.
My name will live forever -
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