@ There you go again- That statement makes perfect sense to those of us who are
NOT addicts or alcoholics. To the person who is troubled and struggling with
substance abuse, they cannot even comprehend that statement or wonder how it
pertains to them.I have been struggling with a loved one and their
addiction for many years now and nothing seems to be working. At some point the
addict will make a choice to humble themselves and "try" the tools and
suggestions that have been offered them during many, many, 12 step meetings,
counseling sessions etc...We can sit back and critic their behavior all we
want, but it just doesn't accomplish anything but frustration on our end.
The best thing to do is practice the Christlike attributes we learn in church
and see if we are capable of practicing what we preach to those who struggle.
Sometimes that's all we can do.
I'm not as much of a fan of Mr. Harmon's writing as some of the other
comments. I wholeheartedly agree with the other comments of hoping & praying
for the best for Max Hall. However, I'd like to provide a slight correction
to the following statement in the article: "He has a wife and two children
and a pair of loving parents who need this fixed." Max needs his addiction
fixed for himself. His wife, children and both sets of parents will then reap
I got addicted to pain killers years ago. I quit and consequently, I live with
my pain and have learned to basically ignore it. Bad back, bad knees, bad neck,
bad ankles. The harshest pain killer that I take is Ibuprofen. I occasionally
take Celebrex, but that isn't a pain killer, and I don't take it very
much because I like my kidneys and liver just as they are.I hope Max
gets the help he needs and de-toxes.\
Au contraire, Malihini,my friend. I was just yesterday trying to recall the
tender names of those dear ones from BYU's days past, whom I remember with
gratitude for what they gave me in the way of inspiration for their talents, yet
also recalling the enormous compassion I felt for their struggles and the
prayers I offered (and still offer) as a former addict myself. Thank-you Dick.
One thing more about Trevor Mollini... He ended up in Utah State Prison because
of his addictions. Nice kid, but got hooked up on pain killers...I
am really proud that both Ute and Cougar fans have taken the high road on Max
Hall, Although the rivalry gets a bit heated at times, it nice to see that the
good hearts of the fans comes out when a players struggles with addiction.
Dick Harmon gets it and lays it out perfectly...what more needs to be said,
other than life can get tricky for some. We apply our own experiences and
capabilities in our judgment of other people whose experiences and capabilities
differ from our own. Rob Morris just shared of his addiction yesterday in
social media. People with chronic pain face a difficult decision: live with
pain everyday or risk the dependency on narcotic pain meds. It's a choice
I would not want to face but have tremendous amount of empathy for those who do.
The sentiment and point of this article is well received. Addiction at any
level is brutal, affects all of us, and is something that we all hope and pray
can be controlled by those that suffer. However, I wonder if it is really
necessary for Harmon to dig up the stories of those who have suffered? I mean,
we don't need names. I don't think we should ignore any
of these instances or pretend they didn't happen, on the contrary we should
acknowledge this near epidemic and always look for ways to support and provide
healing for those affected, but I don't think it is necessary to recall by
name those who have fought (and is some cases, continue to fight) this battle.
We're praying for you, and others like you, Max. #BandofBrothersForever
Thank you,thank you. Mr Harmon....you are the jewel of sports writing, always
knowing what to say and always well researched. As a parent of a
addicted son, we have lost so much and yet we have hope. Pray for Max and his
A local paper publishing a story about Hall being the most hated sports figure
in Utah was unnecessary. I love rivalries but they usually go too far and some
in radio & print media (names withheld), ramp it up in self indulging
fashion. Even if written or spoken "objectively" and analytically, it
fuels the seedy side of a rivalry.
I've been a College Professor for over a quarter of century and have seen
too many of my students go through this. Its an insidious disease that
doesn't care who your parents are, how talented you are, or where you go to
church. Sometimes it takes more than a "wake up call" for someone to
seek help. It takes hitting Rock Bottom. I've referred kids to
rehab and even taken them there myself. I can't make them go inside though.
That has to come from within. That's the most frustrating part. Whatever
you might think of Max, for his sake, and the sake of his family, let's
hope he's got it within himself to get sober. Rock Bottom can get
considerably worse than this. I've seen it too many times.
Substance abuse affects people everywhere and back. My hope is that we can look
around us and recognize where we can give aid or exercise compassion. Sometimes
certain individuals need a figure (in this case Max hall) that wakes them up.
But make no mistake, others need support and people rooting for them the same
way athletes, celebrities and rock stars do. The common Joe is often forgotten.
Being a star athlete has a downside as well, I get that. I mean Hall is all over
the news. But in a way that can help him overcome his demons. He can't deny
his problems as easy perhaps now. His comments 5 years ago have come full
circle. He has many in our community rooting for him. And if he is victorious in
this battle, he can do a circuit of speech engagements and firesides that will
really benefit others and heal himself. It's a way he can get back into the
rhythm of life when employment might be hard to come by in the near future.
Not to minimize the tragedy of drug dependence and abuse, but several articles
over the past couple of days seem to insinuate that this problem is unique to
BYU. Unfortunately it is not. Athletes of many stripes have become
addicted to pain meds after dealing with sports related injuries. Others get
hooked on drugs as a by-product of dealing with fame, fortune and the loss
thereof. It certainly happens with BYU athletes but most certainly the Cougars
do not have the corner on the market.Hoping the best for Max Hall
and his family.
An Apostle who played at Utah and was a UTE fan said the following...“While traveling along a mountainous road one evening through a driving
rainstorm punctuated with frequent claps of thunder and flashes of lightning,
Sister Wirthlin and I could barely see the road, either in front of us or to the
right and the left. I watched the white lines on that road more intently than
ever before. Staying within the lines kept us from going onto the shoulder and
into the deep canyon on the one side and helped avoid a head-on collision on the
other. To wander over either line could have been very dangerous. I thought,
‘Would a right-thinking person deviate to the left or the right of a
traffic lane if he knew the result would be fatal? If he valued his mortal life,
certainly he would stay between these lines.’“If we stay
within the lines that God has marked, he will protect us, and we can arrive
safely at our destination” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1990, 80; or
Ensign, Nov. 1990, 64).A true reminder and a wake-up call for all of