Two simple gold bands.Two simple people starting out.Two sets of
parents and A few friends who care.It isn't the wedding
that matters. It matters that you are wed (and that you are one with all
that matters).It isn't having the time of your life at a wedding that
matters.It is the life in your time together.
The only thing I wish we'd spend more money on was photography, and that
aspect has improved so much in quality over the past couple of decades that
I'm envious. (We have some super cheesy photo poses.) Our temple wedding
was free and the most beautiful venue imaginable. Reception at a kind neighbors
was "free," other than the sheet cake and mints, Kool-aid mingled with 7
Up (a bit cheaper than alcohol), and the ingredients for the stuffed cream puffs
my roommate made. My other roommate did the flowers using roses we bought
wholesale. Had to pay for tuxedos and rings. In the end, other than the
photography, it should be the memories and the marriage that lasts.
In most states people are not marrying out of high schoo or while still in
college. They already have a place of their own. They already have a condo or
house. Receptions in most states mean a sit down menu, entertainment, cake,
photography, flowers, attire. People come and gift money, you give them food and
drink and cake and music.
I don't believe in expensive weddings. I remember I had a choice between a
wedding breakfast or something else. I got a microwave. My wedding was
wonderful. My mother made my gorgeous dress and the ones for my bridesmaids. We
only spent $500 on my reception. A friend took picture for free, although I
probably should have hired someone for that. My students came and sang for me.
It never it even occurred to me to ask someone to buy a dress and I never even
considered a dinner. Also, I know that my sister-in-law rented her dress and all
I had to do was buy a dress in a certain color. My diamond is inherited. I would
never have bought one. People need to spend their time thinking about the
meaning of a wedding, instead to turning it into an expensive circus.
I recall 2 weddings from college. One was the gentleman who was eventually my
best man. the wedding was held in a public park overlooking Golden Colorado, the
food was prepared by the bride's family and the Minister was the
bride's uncle. Total cost, perhaps $1000. the year previous I was a
groomsman for a wedding of another college friend. the bride's parents flew
the entire party of groomsmen/bridesmaids to Anchorage for a lavish, 100+ person
wedding. I have no idea how much it cost but my ticket alone was over $1000.
Probably close to that $30k number.For ours I think we did it
reasonably$1000 - church, minister, reception hall, etc $5000 -
Catering, and wedding cake. We greatly overestimated how much food we'd
need (protected for 90 people)$1000 - Photographer, all digital photos
except a few large prints. $600 - tuxes for me and the groomsmen (brides
maids bought their own)$1000 - FlowersWe had a lovely wedding
with many guests. The biggest savings to be had is usually the food. Everything
was very high quality. We paid for it ourselves and it was quite a bit of money
for a couple starting out. I can't imagine spending $30k on one.
If people took the money wasted on diamonds and weddings and invested it in
education or nest eggs there would be a lot less need for prosaic.
While this story might represent weddings in other parts of the country
it's not so here in Utah. Utahns are cheap when it comes to holding
weddings. Particularly when it comes to hiring a photographer. They'll
pay hundreds for a dress. A thousand or more for the venue and then serve water,
carrot sticks and cake. For a photographer to record one of the most important
days in their lives they'll get Uncle Joe who will take a few poor quality
photos. There should be a significant investment in a photographer. When my
last daughter was married a third of the expense was to hire a great
photographer. Money very well spent.
bass679; So true!
These prices are ridiculous. I got married a little over 2 months ago, we spent
about 1/3 of this and I thought it was crazy expensive. And over $500 for
guests? I mean a lot of my family flew in from Utah for the wedding but we
didn't expect any gifts from them, that was their gift. I mean we
didn't have any sort of crazy exotic ceremony but do you really need that?
For $30,000 you could have a wedding, honeymoon, and a nice nest egg to start a