@ Lambo:Thanks for your comment on "I never said it would be
easy I only said it would be worth it." It is distressing that people say
this as if it was a quote from the Savior. It's deceptive and it's not
even good doctrine. He actually said something about his yoke being easy and his
burden is light.
Cali cougarThat "quote" " I never said it would be easy
I only said it would be worth it" is not actually what Christ said. He
said "my yoke is easy and my burden is light" and then invited us to
take His yoke upon us. While it may not feel that way sometimes, walking the
Godly way yoked with Christ as a covenant partner is easier than choosing the
world's way. You avoid many of the consequences of serious sin--addiction,
broken homes, neglected children, legal consequence for crime, and not having
the companionship of the Holy Spirit. We can look at someone like Katherine
Heigl and say she has got it easy, she is rich and famous. But she has the
weight of abandoning her faith, poor choices, and publicly breaking her
covenants and has to live with guilt, addictions and negative consequences of
choosing that life. I hope one day she will remember the teachings of her
childhood that "wickedness never was happiness" and "let your light
so shine" and abandon the immoral worldly life. Maybe this choice to put a
higher priority on motherhood is the first step!
Actually I just remembered that I met Heigl and Danielle Harris on a project
done here locally probably about 18 years ago or so. I don't remember the
name of the show and Heigl was just a young teen who had just gotten some
attention from 'My Father the Hero', but she was smart and engaging to
talk to for a few minutes. There, go easy on my comment as I need at least an A-
on my book report so I can receive my new bumblebee transformer.
Good for Katherine Heigl. Yes she has options that many people don't have.
But why fault her for having had stardom and possessing wealth? Jealousy maybe.
That said Deer Valley would be a great area to live in. But I do applaud her for
loving her daughter and putting her first. Maybe she got burned out of Hollywood
and wants to settle and enjoy her family and the local community where all of us
can shred this feel good story about her. I wonder if she feels like the
'haters' never stops throwing darts even here in Utah.
"I feel a strong sense of pride and wonder hearing that a talented and
successful woman such as Katherine Heigl would choose family over fame."She made no such choice. She had the fame (and money) long before ever
deciding to adopt a child. Even now she doesn't have to choose. If her
agent gets her a gig, she can afford to hire help, or jet-commute, or bring her
current housekeeper, nanny, and personal chef with her.Mrs. Herbert
tries to make this little book report into some inspiring example, and put
herself on par with Katherine Heigl as an example, for everyone else to
follow.The rich and famous pretend they understand the difficulties
of life, but it is not the same, not even close.
Commodore, excellent point about companies needing to give fair wages to help a
parent stay home to raise their kids. It's going to take leaders who care
more about people than the bottom line and an act of bravery. Wealth is leaving
the middle class and funneling to the rich.On a more related note,
there is hardly a comparison between Katherine heigl and Carmen Rasmussen
foregoing career to stay at home. However, I admire any mom who can and chooses
to do so.
Carmen - Just a general comment that I appreciate each article from you. I
understand how challenging it can be at times for men and women, husbands and
wives, and fathers and mothers to live balanced lives in our culture today. My
wife has a picture of the Savior in our home with a caption that reads "I
never said it would be easy. I only said it would be worth it." I have tried
to keep that in mind each day.
"Carmen Rasmusen Herbert: Katherine Heigl wants to stay at home"Really? The name confused me so much - Carmen Rasmusen Herbert Katherine
Heigl - that I clicked on it to see what it was about.It appears to
be about Carmen poorly reporting on an article about Katherine Heigl but
injecting herself into the article in a weak attempt to seek attention.
I wish more women or men could stay at home to tend for their children. We know
that flattening wages and inflation forced the middle class to adopt the coping
mechanism of sending women into the workforce. If companies would pay fair wages
then more women or men could stay at home with children. The author of this
article would do well to challenge the existing economic conditions which
prevent many women from obtaining the coveted status of full-time stay at home
mom. Until we tackle the greed in this country, which prevents one
parent from staying at home, all the talk about it over the web and over the
pulpit will accomplish very little, except create an unreachable goal for many
women. Let's not only talk about the ideal, but about how we can remove
barriers that prevent it from actualizing.
I, too, am wondering why Monk clicked on this! C'mon, editor - we need
answers!(-;(I had read somewhere else that Ms. Heigl was
raised in a Mormon household, but that she had pretty much abandoned her roots.
I've also read that she has a reputation for being somewhat of a prima
donna - hard to work with. Thank goodness we can all make course corrections
when we feel something is amiss in our lives, huh? If her family is her #1
priority, I say "you go girl!")
I read your article and was feeling all good about motherhood. Then I got this
email from my wife a few minutes later. Daughter: "Mom, WHERE
IS THE LIFE CEREAL?!"Mom: "It's probably all gone. We can
get some more next week."Daughter: crying....for the last 20
minutes.Apparently we can never run out of cereal again. And by the
way she is crying, maybe she has insider information that they are no longer
selling Life cereal as of last night. The other 15 choices currently in our
cupboard aren't good enough.LOVE. EVERY. MINUTE.
Why did I click on this? This is a grade school book report from a Good
Housekeeping article? What has happened to the Deseret News?