I left my four-year-old grandson in the back of the van and ran into the grocery
store. I had completely forgotten he was there. I must have been in the store
30 minutes. When I opened the back of the van to put the groceries in I just
about fainted to see him sitting there. Fortunately, this was in San Diego and
it was not hot outside. Fortunately he quietly waited for me to return. Why
was he so good to stay in the van? He could have gotten out. A stranger could
have tried to get him out. So many things could have gone wrong, but
didn't.We are human; we make terrible mistakes. I hope this
mother and family can find comfort.
Dear April and Micah, every single one of us who has had the privilege of being
a parent has had temporary lapses in judgement, or in this case, a lapse of
awareness. Watching and caring for children 100% of the time is simply not
possible. We all could have been in your situation, but for whatever reason we
were spared the agony and grief you're going through now. Please read these
comments and realize that every rational, intelligent adult who has been a
parent empathizes with you, and is compassionate in their sustaining of you. As
a parent who has lost a child (4 yr old daughter), I can only tell you that in
time, it gets better. You never forget, and don't want to, but it gets
better. If anything, look for the opportunity to draw closer to your family and
your Heavenly Father. My love to your entire extended family, because they are
grieving along with you.
Oh, dear sweet April and family. Most of us won't have to publicly bear
the unbearable personal life altering experiences of our family. Consequences
remain private or don't show up for years. But your loss of Skyah has
become a community tutorial. Words are inadequate to comfort you amidst the
devastating and painful mourning of Skyah that will last as long and as deep as
love lives for your precious daughter. There is no timeline for the end of
love. May our Father in Heaven through the atoning power of our Savior and
Redeemer cover, comfort and heal your broken hearts. It is the only way.
There is a reason this is a crime in Nevada. She may be a wonderful person, but
what she did was wrong. Sad. And wrong. Good people make mistakes that are
against the law all the time and pay for it with prosecution.
Essentially the same thing happened to a family here in ABQ about 30 years ago.
Little girl's older siblings locked her up in a car trunk on a hot day, and
the parents didn't miss her until it was too late. Absolutely devastating
to all concerned.
Harsh and negative judgments about this terrible tragedy will not only hurt the
mother but also the father and the other children. Sympathy and love will be
the only thing that will really help all of them, along with kind and helpful
counseling. My deepest condolences to them -- may their faith, their knowledge
of the plan of happiness and the love of the Lord and all of those around them
help to bring them the comfort they need. I am convinced that this family can
all be together again, especially if those around them will love and care for
all of them, especially the mother.
Dear April, If it were possible for everyone who has made a simple
mistake to hug you and offer love and support, the line would stretch for miles.
Lean on your loved ones, ignore the immature comments, and get professional
help for this challenge. With time, you will come to understand God's plan
far better than most, and your heart will heal. Love to you from
another imperfect traveler making his way along life's rocky path.
I know from experience the loss of a child/children is very devastating. My God
bless YOU and your beautiful family with His grace and mercy!! I certainly
don't mean to be mean or criticizing but I think it is a little wrong that
donations are being taken for the "family to heal" What's done is
done, mistakes were made, I don't see how money can help this family in any
way. I do however think this fund should be donated to charities to raise
awareness for example Kids and Cars, or to the air ambulance service, or to
charities that help people affected by such tragedies. This child's death
should not be in vain, think of the lives she could save, the families that will
never have to go through the same tragic loss. Make the world remember her! May
we all learn from each others mistakes as well as our own x May God bless YOU
with peace at this time, YOU are in my thoughts and prayers! Best wishes and God
bless! May the knowledge that you will be reunited one day bring you peace and
may your angel watch over you x
as long as parents are human, these things happen. don't be so hard on
This tragedy could have happened to any mother. I am praying for this family.
Tragic- yes. Preventable- certainly. Understandable- debatable.Prayers, condolences- yes. Counseling- absolutely: For the sake of
any future babies whose mothers are too busy to watch over them.If you are
going to be entrusted with God's creations, they come first. We've all
gotten too busy, done things we regret.But not checking on a napping
11-month old till 1:00? Never.
A mistake? yes it was. But even mistakes have consequences. As my old pappy told
me "You can choose your actions, but you can't choose your
consequences" There are legal statues that deal with situations like
this. As bad as the mother feels about this "mistake", how do you think
the baby felt those last few hours?
For those that say "she needs to simplify her life" or "how could a
loving mother possible do this" or " I would NEVER forget my kid in the
car, and for those that need to know they are not alone I would suggest reading
this article from the washington post, I can't post the link but do a
google search for "Fatal Distraction: Forgetting a Child in the Backseat of
a Car" it is an article on the issue, very well written and contains some
As a father who sometimes forgot to pick the kids up at daycare, I can relate to
this.A good friend, while loading all his flock into the car after
church, left the newborn in its carrier on the ground and barely missed running
over it as he backed out of the parking spot. (Mother was at home with another
child who was ill.)Or another friend who was driving down Washington
Blvd many years ago and spotted a baby carrier lying in the middle of the
street. He stopped and discovered a baby -- unhurt and apparently quite happy
-- in the seat. He took it to the police station, arriving just as a frantic
call from a mother came in. She had two other kids, a pile of groceries, and
while she loaded the car had set the baby carrier on the trunk lid.We are all human. We are all fallible. We all have been inches away from
disasters at time -- perhaps without ever knowing how close we came -- because
of our human frailties.I hope none of our usual
superior-than-everyone-else commentators will take it upon themselves to condemn
I am certainly too ignorant, but wouldn't it be wonderful if someone could
invent a computer chip to be put into all baby seats to prevent this? Cars
today are computers on wheels. The chip could detect that a baby was in the
seat and then if the temp got up to 100 degrees it would send a message to the
car and the horn would start honking. It does not seem like that would be too
difficult for the gurus of today to develop. It shatters me every time that I
hear of these tragedies. God bless the family and especially the poor Mother.
You know, this is a private matter when it comes to this. I am so sorry this
tragic happen to this little girl and to the family. We and I are not the one
who judge other people lives. I read this what happen on the last article but no
detail how this event happen and I didn't judge which was a good thing.
Having lost a son and three young grandchildren; I can understand some of what
this family is feeling at this time! While regrets and "what ifs" will
always be with them, it is my hope that they will try to dwell on the love they
had for this sweet child and the love that she had for them. I wish you peace!
I'm very sorry to hear of the loss of your child. It is not what is
expected and definitely doesn't follow the circle of life! I know from
experience that losing children is very very devastating. Mistakes are made
every day, sometimes they come to very devastating results, sometimes people are
very blessed and never have to live the "what could have been". I know
the path you are about to walk very well :( Its not easy, while the
circumstances of losing my children was definitely different, the feeling of
loss, the anger at the unfairness, etc are not easy to deal with, I fear you
will be your worst enemy at this time. No one is perfect, no one is without
error or mistakes therefore have no place to judge. Part of me wants to be
angry, to say "how could you possibly forget your child in a car" But
the fact is, when our routines are disrupted it rarely makes for a good day,
things rarely go right. :( Everything happens for a reason, and sometimes we
just have to accept not being able to understand sadly.
There but for the grace of God go any one of us in a similar circumstance. May
the Lord's comforting arms be around this family and know our hearts are
filled with compassion. May this mother be relieved of guilt but know her sweet
babe is in the Lord's arms till they meet again.
This is a nightmare that many mothers have. How awful that this poor mother is
living it. We all make mistakes and this sort of mistake is one of the most
horrifying. This incident does not indicate criminal behavior or anything that
the law should prosecute. This was a terrible accident and my prayers go out
for the family. They need love, understanding and support.
It's wonderful to see the outpouring of sympathy here and I would only hope
that the same level of tolerance would be given to a person who perhaps had no
neighbors or extended family to talk about what a wonderful parent they are. I
would hope that no matter what the persons color, beliefs or economic situation,
we could stand back and say "there but for the grace of God..." in the
same way that so many have to this unfortunate Mom and family. Not to sound
critical of kind thoughts, but sometimes it seems we extend tolerance and
forgiveness to some and a harsher and less tolerant tone for others.
I express my deepest sympathy for this sweet, beautiful mother who is suffering
so much from this very tragic experience. Sister, know that many, many people
love you and are praying for you at this time. The light will come. Hang on!
Pray, and hang on!
Accidents, distractions and forgetfulness happens to the very best of parents.
Ignore the haters. God bless you and your family.
As I look back at what could have happened to my children because of my actions
I just marvel. It just happened differently here.
This is such a sad thing. It is understandable how a change in routine would
throw someone's memory off long enough to be the crux of an accident like
this. Someone please invent a car seat device that alerts the parents if the
car seat is not removed within seconds of the car shutting off. The baby should
be the first thing out of the car. A guest on a talk show emphasized the
correct order to load or unload a car in every circumstance:First:
KidsSecond: Your PurseThird: Groceries and other thingsHe stressed this order of priority, as each of these should be protected in
that order of importance. You put your least easy to replace things in and out
first. Hope that helps us all prevent such a tragedy in the future.Any other ideas, people have out there - please share for the benefit of us
As a society we are so quick to judge! We compare our best qualities against
somebody else's worst qualities. It's a way to elevate our self
importance. In a terrible tragedy, like this one, it is best to find solace in
the good book. Matthew 7 verse 1 says, "Judge not, that you be not
judged." This very popular verse is often quoted however verse 2 of that
same Chapter is seldom quoted, "For with what judgment ye judge, you shall
be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you
again."May God comfort you and give you peace.
My heart just aches for this family. There is no greater tragedy than to lose a
child. I have four children, including a toddler, and this is one of my
greatest fears. This family is in my prayers.
This is a tough situation that has happened before. I don't think
punishing the mother will accomplish anything. There is justice and there is
mercy. I favor mercy in this situation.
As difficult as it will be, April will have to forgive herself. The bad memory
of the day of the tragedy must not overwhelm the previous joys of having Skyah
in their home. Criticism and blame should not be a part of anything. Love and
forgiveness as Christ would do, should prevail.
April and Family, so sorry to hear of this tragic accident. I can only imagine
the pain you must be going through. I have two grown children myself. I believe
regret is the greatest sorrow and losing a child, the greatest pain that a
mother can bear. Please know that everything happens for a reason and God loves
you. Your beautiful, perfect child is now with her Father in Heaven again.
Your husband and your boys need you. Read the book, Believing Christ! It will
help you through your pain. Christ didn't just die for sin, he died for
every sorrow we may feel also. Forgive yourself! You and God know it was a
mistake. You still have a beautiful family and families are forever!
Don't let the negative comments destroy you! Pray for strength and The
Lord will be there. Time is the only thing that will heal along with prayer.
God Bless you!
Such a beautiful, precious little girl! There is no better placer for her than
in her mothers loving arms. Such a devastating tragedy.
These are the kinds of circumstances I hope the DN censors are vigilant and do
not allow the condescending judgmental posts we typically see in the other
paper's forums. Families that lose children this way have suffered enough.
No need for the rabid do-gooders to come out with their supposed hindsight
This keeps happening and there is a relatively simple solution. The high end
Prius has a solar cell on its roof that provides power to a fan that
continuously brings in new outside air into the car, which expells the old air
in the car. This keeps the temperature of the inside of the car to within a
degree of the outside air temperature. Any car with this couldn't get hot
enough to kill a child. Were the government to mandate this for all vehicles
soon such deaths would be a thing of the past.Similarly if all cars
had back up cameras in the rear of the car, many children's lives would be
There but for the grace of God go I.
Dear Suwyn family, I am so sorry for your tragic loss. I only hope that over
time God will mend the broken hearts enough to remember the happy times.
Oh dear, just sick for the family. I remember when I was a young mom, running
around like all young mother's do, errands, honey do's, picking up
parts for the tractors, delivering eggs, etc., I left our baby daughter in her
car seat "Just for a second", while I ran some eggs into a place of
business. Thank God it wasn't so hot that day but I have berated myself
for doing that ever since and that child is now in her mid 30's and has
daughter's of her own. It only takes a minute. They go to sleep, oh so
very very sad for all, especially the mother. Self blame is a terrible tool of
destruction. I pray she gets professional help and a lot of love from the
family. God bless her, God bless the entire community for their love and
support. You just don't know until you walk in someone else's shoes.
This is a child, I know but please, don't blame. Please.
What a nightmare. My heart goes out to the family and to the mother. Their
lives will never be the same.
Being a father of young children myself, my heart aches for you. I can't
even comprehend the measure of your grief. Sometimes things happen that we can
not understand. Know that she is doing well in a far better place. I pray that
you may someday forgive yourself.