Published: Friday, July 25 2014 12:15 p.m. MDT
"If you are or were married, has your marriage definitely resulted in more
wealth and income?" Yes, My wife and I made it through bachelors programs by
working part time and sharing household expenses. Later she supported me through
my masters program by working as a nurse. All our education was debt free! Now I
have a good job as an engineer and am able to support her and our children. Yes
marriage and family did force me to grow up and work hard. Yes it absolutely
resulted in more wealth and income.
A rather interesting article to be reprinted by the DN. This article is almost,
dare I say, anti-marriage. As an unmarried man with a salaried job, allow me to
say that I have my job in part due to the fact that I am NOT married. I had much
more freedom in obtaining education and seeking employment. I did not set out
with a direct purpose of avoiding marriage, but marriage avoided me. Marriages
do not like graduate degrees. Marriages do not like husbands that work until
midnight. I know that this may ruffle feathers of some, but marriage is not the
panacea to the ills of the world. I am pro marriage; it needs to be done in the
right time and way, though. I am infinitely grateful for the things I have been
able to do as an unmarried person. Many of them have prepared me to be a better
husband and father.
It's kids that trash your income. Not your spouse.
Commitment. When that enters into your life every thing changes.
Married people, on the average, are better off in many ways--health, happiness
and, yes, financially. Life is full of challenges, but we receive blessings
when we follow God's plan.
Well done D News for posting an thoughtful, objective and mature look at this
discussion. Typically this paper sometimes publishes confirmation bias type
articles to the which the author himself refers is a natural tendency to do. It
takes a mature and intelligent source to look at the facts, passionlessly and
take conclusions from the realities, whether they support your belief systems or
not. Again well done.
Causation and correlation are often difficult prove. It may be that married
people are better off financially simply because those who get married are
simply more likely to act responsibly in all areas of life. While raising kids
can be expensive, so can going out to eat with your friends and hanging out at
night clubs. Married couples are more invested in the success of the unit than
trying to go their own way. Additionally, my experience has been that married
men are more focused once they have someone they feel responsible for. I have
seen many millenials who are bright but simply lack the drive to, in the words
of Dave Ramsey - kill it and drag it home. Once they get married, however, they
suddenly get focus and start acting like men.
It is odd that we seem to think that a man must fall into one of two extremes.
He either is married and responsible or he is single and a pathetic loser with
no drive. I know many single men who consistently are better employees than
their married counterparts; I know single men who academically were 5 times more
driven than the married men. And I know single men who put in long days of work,
just like everyone else. Having that ring on your finger can change you for the
better. But understand that there actually are single men who are not complete
wastes of skin. And they get it done despite the anti single attitudes of some
This article deserves to be in the opinion section as it is just a bunch of
reasoned opinions. Anyway, Love cats response. God prospers those who follow his
commandments and marriage between a man and women is one of those. So is raising
a family. I feel like my wife's job is 100% from God even when we were not
even looking for it. It just dropped into our lap right when we lost some
additional income. Now our total income is more than it was before. Also,
I agree that single people tend to do more expensive things like party, eat out,
and go on trips. A family typically learns to sacrifice so that even though they
have more obligations, they use that money wiser. This means when a family
starts making more money, they don't spend a ton of more money at the same
time.(NOT always, but I see that with my unmarried friends vs married.)
Hutterite - Kids may use up money, but they are more than worth
it!!!! Money is really not that important....
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