I just saw a documentary about this tragedy using actors I knew didn't look
like either Lori or her killer, and popped online to compare when I found this
article. Mark's father worked as a pediatrician at the hospital where
I worked, so I knew him from there as a well-loved, professional physician,
admired by both patient's families and by colleagues alike. From my
viewpoint, the tragedy along with everything else was how deeply this hurt Dr.
Hacking; his countenance changed, as though he bore the weight of the world. I
felt so awful for him and his family, and I could almost feel that he wondered
every moment what he had done wrong as a dad. That hurt mostly because as a dad,
I know I would feel responsible, at least partly, for one of my kids doing
something so horrific. What had I missed? Where had I gone wrong? Dr.
Hacking, you did nothing wrong. That your son started on a bad road out of fear
of letting family down in no way reflects on you as a dad or as an example to
your son. They were HIS choices. He has made his path difficult, but we both
know that the Master knows Mark's heart, and will render perfect judgment
at some point.
What an amazing and wonderful example this woman is. God bless her.
I am so sorry for her. May God continue to bless her with peace.
Its amazing the choices people make. Mark Hacking to fake getting a degree and
to kill his wife. Lori's mother to forgive Mark. I wonder how that is
even possible. I wonder if she really has but if not don't doubt that she
would like to.
God bless Mrs. Soares for her ability to forgive. I had a cousin murdered 20
years ago in May by her ex-husband. He was just released from jail and I still
struggle with forgiveness. I wasn't even overly close to this cousin, so I
can only imagine how much harder it would be to forgive the murderer of your
child. What a great lady Mrs. Soares has shown herself to be!I hope
that Mark Hacking is truly repentant.
What a neat lady Lori's mom is. I pray for her continued peace. I'm
also impressed with Mark's family - how they all confronted him to get him
to confess to this horrendous act. We've seen from too many families the
desire to protect the guilty party because he is family. What a courageous stand
to do what is right and help others heal even if someone you love makes a major
great subject matter, but boring story..
Thank you for sharing this story and to hear how those closest to her are
surviving. Such a tragic loss and our thoughts are with the family always.
My heart goes out to all of us who have had someone we love die that Lori did.
My sister was a victim of Domestic Violence which took her life ten years ago as
well. The sad part is her estranged husband has never had to serve a day in Jail
or Prison. It was very much like a O.J. Simpson her children would have won in a
civil court because there was so much evidence but they can not prove that he
put the drugs in her drink. There was some kind of a mixture that one can find
on the internet who has medical knowledge and he did. So when I read things like
this and it brings back that pain that I feel I love to always plead with those
who know someone who is in a bad relationship to get out of it. This poor mother
and her pain and sorrow that she carries and will until that day she passes on
and meets her darling daughter and be able to hug her again.
I don't think I could forgive Mark Hacking. She is a lot better person than
I can hardly believe that this tragedy was ten years ago. May the Lord continue
to bless this good and courageous mother. Yes, Lori, was not in the land fill
but with our Father in Heaven.
I very much appreciate Lori's mother for sharing this story. Just a few
days ago I wondered how those close to Lori are doing now. I am not acquainted
with any of them, but like many others, I was horrified by her disappearance and
her husband's eventual confession. Her mother's forgiveness is amazing
too, and provides an example for others confronted with similar circumstances.
My thoughts are with all who miss Lori on this 10th anniversary.