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Published: Thursday, July 17 2014 6:50 p.m. MDT

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birder
Salt Lake City, UT

Not everything that is "natural" needs to be viewed by everyone in a public place. I support the principal. Breast feeding moms should cover up.

PhoenixAZ
phoenix, AZ

I breast fed my babies also. And even I do not want to see breasts in public. It takes one second to cover up with something.

Mom of 8
Hyrum, UT

Yes, it's really not a big deal to cover up with a thin blanket. If others are uncomfortable, be considerate of them. Besides, I don't exactly want to show off my "assets" in public; I rather keep them private.

In 20 years of nursing nine children, I never had a problem being discreet.

K
Mchenry, IL

The principal should have explained that she had a legal right to breastfeed and told them to lump it. They need to get over it. It's for a baby. It's not sexual. If you have other standards of modesty avert your eyes and keep your standards and let her have her standards. The Pope says feed the baby.

There were a few people that thought it was excessive exposure. She could have been very discrete. Most didn't complain. It's a breast. She could have been covered up for a second and someone might not like it and complain. Their complaints aren't supported by law.

carman
Wasatch Front, UT

This is not an issue of the law, or rights, but of common courtesy. Nursing children often come "unattached", and often more is exposed than even intended. Covering up with a thin blanket in a air conditioned room to avoid making others uncomfortable is just common courtesy. Given that the local culture is somewhat sensitive to standards of modesty, erring on the side of courtesy in a very public place is just being considerate.

And to others who were in the school, if someone is not being particularly discrete or courteous in such a circumstance, and you are uncomfortable, find a seat facing the other direction.

JohnCohen
Seattle, WA

She had every legal right to do what she did, if people had a problem with it they could leave.

Kralon
HUNTINGTON BEACH, CA

"It was brought to the attention of the principal who felt that, at least, an initial dialogue with the individual mother would probably be good, Garrett said."

A formal letter is not a dialogue! The principal should be aware of the law and act accordingly, not surreptitiously accost the wrong party.

Most mothers do use a light blanket to cover breastfeeding and I do expect to see that behavior but when I don't it certainly isn't a big deal.

True Blue SEoul
Orem, UT

I am stunned with the comments above! Absolutely floored! I cannot believe anyone would tell the mother to "be more modest", "cover up", not make others "uncomfortable". Breast feeding is one of the most natural acts to human nature. For crying out loud! This is feeding a baby food! All of you should be ashamed of yourselves. We need a loving, caring society who makes it as easy and comfortable for a mother to breast feed as possible. My wife is now breastfeeding our third child, do any of you commenters above have any idea how hard it is to care for a young baby, not to mention a bunch of prudes telling you to hide yourself?

And yes, the above commenter pointed out the obvious. The principal "starting a dialogue" would have been the principal coming over to talk with the mother. Having some other assistant run up and hand a letter to them and run away is not a "dialogue". Logan School District, you ought to be ashamed of yourselves and apologize for this ridiculous behavior. How childish is it to not be able to go and address a concern by talking with the person?

Fullypresent
Salt Lake City, UT

Oh please. These moms. Genitals are perfectly natural too but doesn't mean everyone wants to see them just because they are yours and natural. Women shouldn't be ashamed of breast feeding as it is a natural thing but doesn't mean everyone wants to see what you have. Some of these women are a bit rabid. They can breast feed discreetly.

True Blue SEoul
Orem, UT

Oh yes, the modesty argument! We are completely bombarded by images of women in swimsuits and other women walking around in super short shorts and form-fitting clothes. Do you really believe that a mother breastfeeding is immodest? Really? I mean seriously? You feel that these women are purposely bearing themselves to show off their "stuff"? Absolutely unbelievable! I am blown away by the drawing of a connection between immodesty and breastfeeding. Do you sincerely believe showing someone your genitals and breastfeeding are the same? For all of you "modest" people who are sitting on your Christian modesty, what would Jesus do? Would he walk up and tell her to "cover up lady, you're immodest." Modesty run amuck!

mstrad
Los alamitos, CA

Please don't judge others. Breastfeeding is hard enough already. We are just trying to nourish our little ones. Because of rude people that treat women poorly I often sit on a toilet or in a hot car even though I have every right to nurse in public. My baby will not tolerate a cover and I am unable to pump. My baby is exclusively breastfed, often behind closed doors. You have no idea the experience of someone else. If you have a problem stop looking. Think of the baby and the quality meal they are getting. Breastmilk is the best thing a baby can drink.

Clarissa
Layton, UT

I have absolutely no problem with breast feeding, but I don't really want to see your breast and I certainly don't want children to see your breast. As for the other immodest dress: Would you be comfortable with a teacher teaching in a swimsuit or super short shorts? I think breast feeding is almost a sacred bond between a child and her or his mother.

Cole Thomas
Salt Lake City, UT

The shaming and policing of women continues.

Brent T. Aurora CO
Aurora, CO

Great article in the Huffington Post called How To Breastfeed Appropriately which I highly recommend for a humorous view that strikes home perfectly in making the needed point here.

Kudos to these women for standing with this mother.

james d. morrison
Boise, CA

Shocked? Really? She couldn't have been surprised at all.
True Blue Seoul, he probably would.

vangroovin
West Jordan, UT

@JohnCohen

The other people who are not breastfeeding have just as much right as this woman does to be there. Why would they have to be expected to leave when they are not the ones making others uncomfortable? That's backwards. Yes, this woman has the right to do this in public because of the law, but some may view her action as "sexual" and feel uncomfortable by it. Why is feeling uncomfortable around this situation viewed as wrong? I'm a married man - the last thing I want to see is someone "exposed" under the guise of "breastfeeding". Have some self-respect and respect for others and cover up, please.

cris
Hamilton, IL

Been there done that. Nursed six kids. Never had to expose myself in public.there are always those who have to be extreme.

Strider303
Salt Lake City, UT

Could both sides have handled this event better? Probably so.

I find the circumstances of the incident interesting, i.e., the mother brought here whole family in for the free lunch. It was not free, it was provided at no cost to the recipient at taxpayer expense. Hence being a guest, as it were, in another person's "house" and "dinning" at their expense some adherence to their petition for modesty as they defined it should have been considered.

Had she been willing or able to provide her family a lunch at home this event would not have occurred.

So, is the issue oppressive bureaucracy infringing upon a person's "right" to nurse an infant in public? Or is is someone availing themselves of the public largess and not being willing to conform to a request for acceptable deportment while so doing?

Only the Shadow knows for sure.

Aggie238
Logan, UT

"K" said: "It's not sexual."

Uh, she was in a public middle school...everything is sexual. Trust me. EVERYTHING.

While this woman absolutely has a right to breastfeed in public, and I support that right, it's also courteous to make some effort to cover up. I understand that sometimes a blanket falls or the baby can come unhitched, and that's fine. If you're making an effort to be discreet, most sensible people won't have a problem. What is a problem is if you're walking around with your wares hanging out all over the place, particularly in a place like a middle school. People also have a right to be in a public place, particularly with children, without having to deal with overt exposure of that nature. You can wear a bikini to the library. Doesn't mean you should do it.

I wasn't there, so I have no idea what actually happened, but the fact that the principle, who already has a busy schedule without being the breastfeeding police, felt he needed to take time to write her an official letter tells me that there is probably another side to the story.

iron&clay
RIVERTON, UT

Exposed cleavage is in the public's face all the time for no other reason than....clothing styles?

What if every time a clerk or teller exposed their cleavage to the public during a transaction for no other reason than low neck lines being in style, a patron insulted them with a written complaint about exhibitionism.

Would that complainer about exposure be considered a prude and their objections dismissed?

Is exhibitionism against law?

Breastfeeding mothers need special protection from misguided public sentiment.

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