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Published: Tuesday, July 15 2014 6:00 a.m. MDT

Updated: Tuesday, July 15 2014 5:32 p.m. MDT

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Jamescmeyer
Midwest City, USA, OK

I'm bothered by the premise of the show. This is the sort of thing people think of marriage now, and they're cheating themselves, their families, their communities, and increasingly their states and nations through it.

MNmamaof4
Lakeville, MN

"We warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets." (The Family: A Proclamation to the World.) When I first heard that in 1995, I couldn't wrap my head around what the First Presidency was trying to warn us about. This TV show is just one more evidence of the direction we are headed. What to do? "We call upon responsible citizens...everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society."

Hutterite
American Fork, UT

Hey, we always see positive articles here about some local or another on a reality show. Yet, as shown in this case, it is the worst that tv can offer, and there is no low to which it cannot stoop.

AerilusMaximus
Berryville, VA

@ RanchHand

"Blame it on "the gays"; everyone else does."

Really? There needs to be some clarification on that because the word "everyone" has a very broad meaning.

Just many are not for Gay Marriage does not mean they are blaming all martial problems upon them.

"No other success can compensate for failure in the home."

I will concur with the author in stating that many are making a mockery of marriage. I think it is probably to lessen the guilt, pain, etc. that they feel themselves at being failures at it.

If Marriage continues to be defined as just another relationship then what does that mean? It means that families are going to disintegrate faster and be more susceptible to falling apart.

Bob A. Bohey
Marlborough, MA

Just think how this show harm all of the people that are currently married or ever will be married...I know, right?

I M LDS 2
Provo, UT

This is not a sign that society is on the decline.

This is not a mockery of the institution of marriage.

This is not evidence of "the disintegration of the family".

And the sky is not falling.

It is "entertainment". If you or society are affected negatively by this silly little show, then you have deeper problems.

praxis
Salt Lake City, UT

Just a modern example of one form of "Traditional Marriage" - the arranged marriage. It's been going on since before the start of recorded history. In the Bible, the most notable example is the marriage of Isaac and Rebekah.

Arranged marriages are still occurring in societies around the world. Love wasn't truly considered a basis when forming a marriage until the Victorian era.

JHP
Okemos, MI

Good article. I saw the first episode, and while it's entertaining, it's the four-week trial that just isn't right. If they actually committed to be married indefinitely, then it wouldn't be a big deal, but then that would decrease the entertainment value, so that's how they do it.

RedWings
CLEARFIELD, UT

praxis -

Except that arranged marriages in other cultures are not for 4 weeks. They are for life, and often involved political alliances.

I M LDS 2 -

There is not going to be one "smoking gun" that points to the disintrgration of the family. It is a death by 1000 cuts. That is what our Prophets have been warning us about for years....

Ohio-LDS
NE, OH

I understand the author's concerns regarding this new "trial marriage" show, but I cannot understand how she decries this show and still support The Bachelor. In The Bachelor, we are presented with a man who is seriously dating and even sleeping with several women at the same time, any one of whom he may propose to within a few weeks time. In the "trial marriage" show, at least the couple is married when they sleep together, at least they are trying things one-on-one rather than in a serial-dating/marriage situation, and at least there is an even power arrangement rather than 25:1 dynamics. Even if the couple ends up divorcing after 4 weeks, I can't see how that experience is worse, or more demeaning of marriage, than what is presented in The Bachelor.

RedShirt
USS Enterprise, UT

I agree this is not a mockery of marriage.

This is a reflection of today's attitude towards marriage, or at least the attitude that some people want to portray. What will be most telling is the attitude of the people on the show, and what the "experts" have set up.

Are the couples featured the type of people that are going to do everything they can to make the marriage work, even though they didn't meet their spouse until they were at the alter? Or, is this yet another reality show where the producers put people together that they hope will fight, and boost ratings?

My hope is that they have found people that want to be married and are willing to work at forming a happy marriage.

DavidMiller
Bountiful, UT

Take this same show, remove the 4-week timeframe to decide about staying married, require a minimum of 4 months before they can consider divorce, and then have the film crews follow up regularly with each couple until the first anniversary or when they get divorced (whichever comes first). Then you might come up with something worth watching.

By the end of four weeks the bride and groom may still be wrapping their mind around the fact that they are married now.

John Charity Spring
Back Home in Davis County, UT

The modern entertainment industry has an open and stated agenda of promoting substance abuse and wanton sexuality. Part of this agenda includes an attempt to destroy traditional marriage and family.

Modern Hollywood portrays marriage as a burdensome institution to be scorned and ridiculed. Indeed, Hollywood treats marriage as something to be avoided at all costs.

Unfortunately, an impressionable public has begun to imitate what is shown on television and movies. As a result, the rates of illegitimacy and disease are skyrocketing.

The irrefutable fact is that wanton, uncontrolled sexuality does have harmful effects for both the individual and society. Shame on those who seek to impose this harm.

Frozen Fractals
Salt Lake City, UT

It might be somewhat less irrational (though less "shocking") for it to be an instant engagement and then decide 4 weeks later, but really, who marries a man/woman they just met?

AerilusMaximus
Berryville, VA

@ Frozen Fractals

They don't have wedding chapels in Vegas for no reason.

Surfs Up
Huntington Beach, CA

I think its a great idea~~ !! Its better than spending five years in a singles ward with a bunch of guys who pretend they want to get married but really don't.. At least the guys on this program are willing to give marriage a try.

Bob K
Davis, CA

The idea that this silly show merits an article on the DN is troubling.

Even more troubling are sentiments like this:
John Charity Spring
Back Home in Davis County, UT
"The modern entertainment industry has an open and stated agenda of promoting substance abuse and wanton sexuality. Part of this agenda includes an attempt to destroy traditional marriage and family.
Modern Hollywood portrays marriage as a burdensome institution to be scorned and ridiculed. Indeed, Hollywood treats marriage as something to be avoided at all costs."

--- Rather than making up falsehoods about Hollywood, why not concentrate on lowering the divorce rate in Utah? Please quote the manifesto of the Entertainment Biz, where they swear to promote substance abuse and wanton sexuality. Maybe they have been to the bars and brothels just over the line from Utah?

By the way, most Hollywood studio execs are married. They may promote laughing at the sillier aspects of married life in exaggerated sitcoms, but a lot of us find that preferable to being over serious and humorless about the realities of life.

antodav
TAMPA, FL

This is just a symptom of a much bigger problem. The sanctity and value of marriage is disintegrating across the board, and this is one of the results of that. Gay marriage is another, but the lack of value that heterosexual couples place on marriage is what has gotten us to this point in the first place.

Bob A. Bohey
Marlborough, MA

@John Charity Spring: Shame on you. Your statement about what the modern entertainment industry openly stated is patently false. And you know it.

Llew40
Sandy, UT

With more marriage minded women here in Utah than men, with more women condemned to singles wards because dating that leads to marriage just ain't happening and because women are held responsible for their own family creation, BRING THIS SHOW TO UTAH!

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