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Published: Tuesday, July 1 2014 7:30 a.m. MDT

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Tekakaromatagi
Dammam, Saudi Arabia

Document and document and document.

In one case, a supervisor would not give an employee important information for the employee to get the work done. Repeated requests for information were ignored.

At job appraisal time, the supervisor gave the employee a low ranking for not performing. The employee filed a grievance using the various email requests for information that the supervisor had failed to respond for requests for information.

Document in a meeting. If a domineering division head says something in a meeting, write it down. Takes notes after the meeting. In six months the notes written the day after a meeting are almost as good as notes written during the meeting.

Besides your memory can fade and your notes will remind you of important things and will correct your memory if you remember something inaccurate.\

Companies that ignore bullies are making a horrible mistake because bullying destroys teamwork. A team can always outperform an individual. In many cases, the bullies are poor performers. Because they have chosen to bully, intimidate, to lie, etc they have not developed the skills and values required for success. Dishonesty (and bullying) is the road to incompetence.

Midvaliean
MIDVALE, UT

This makes me chuckle. You are not required to remain at your job. If you are competent, teachable, and work well with others I daresay you will not have an issue changing jobs or being "bullied" for long.

On the other hand, if you are incompetent, unteachable, and dont' work well with others you are asking to be belittled at work where often times people will use you and belittle you to blow off steam and get a laugh at your expense. Certainly the lead working, or person producing the most numbers is not privy to the bulling that the person who is dead weight on the team is subjected to.

If you find yourself in a job you are unsuited for, make the changes in your life to get out. I think if you find you are making positive changes in your life you will find more opportunities and you will be able to get rid of those bullies.

gmlewis
Houston, TX

I think the article is very true to reality. Everyone on our work team is very competent, but one team member made demeaning remarks about others in an effort to be funny. The manager repeatedly challenged him about needing "sensitivity training", but this didn't help.

After several years, I began the practice of sincerely complimenting him for his good work during our team meetings, and eventually other team members started complimenting him, too. He began returning the compliments, and after a few weeks the bullying stopped.

Most bullying results from the bully's insecurity, not the bullied.

RedWings
CLEARFIELD, UT

I am an HR Manager. Workplace bullying has happened at every company I have worked for. Often the victim can;t simply leave the job without another one. They are stuck. Often the bullying has little to do with performance.

WE live in a society where we are quick to anger and slow to understand. Employees don't take time to get to know their co-workers and see them as people. Others are obstacles for us, so we think we can treat them badly.

If you are being bullied, document it all in detail. If your HR person will not address ist call the company's compliance hotline (if they have one). If not, keep going up in the organization until someone listens. Some HR people are too much in management's camp, and are not an advocate for employees as they should be. Above all, if your company posts and talks about Core Values, hold management to them. Make them walk the talk....

GaryO
Virginia Beach, VA

Midvaleian -

"This makes me chuckle . . . if you are incompetent, unteachable, and dont' work well with others you are asking to be belittled at work . . . "

Wow . . . That is EXACTLY what a workplace bully might say to justify his/her bullying.

RedWings -

"Often the bullying has little to do with performance."

I've seen that. Some people have this little gang or clique mentality.

It's like the pecking order among chickens, and it has little to do with the quality of one's eggs.

There is absolutely NO justification for bullying in the workplace.

Anti Bush-Obama
Chihuahua, 00

Some people need to get out of high school.

Dr. Thom
Long Beach, CA

And the last thing you want to do is go to HR especially if the offending party is the owner or your boss. The best way to keep a workplace bully in their place is to have a framed picture of yourself in full battle-rattle when your served in the military, display some trophies from the local pistol range or just invite your offender to the skeet range to throw clay pigeons for you.

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