Vai's View: From one BYU football alum to another, advice on faith, family, career


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  • Riddles in the Dark Olympus Cove, Utah
    June 30, 2014 8:46 a.m.


    "What is his wife's view?"

    Probably exactly the same as Vai's, that there's no greater calling or responsibility on this earth than that of being a mother.

  • marxist Salt Lake City, UT
    June 28, 2014 12:46 p.m.

    I sympathize with the writer. He's right to emphasize family, but women face a major challenge world - wide because they bear children and thus have to adapt to someone else's agenda.

    "In my view, my wife's career as homemaker is more important than mine because her work has a greater impact on our eternal future. "

    What is his wife's view?

  • Captain L Provo, UT
    June 28, 2014 2:10 a.m.

    Great article and advise, service in the Kingdom is critical to staying focused on the things that are important, having the forsite and courage to stand strong and bold against pressure from bosses, friends etc is admirable , here's hoping everyone takes an honest look at themselves and sees how they are doing in this regard and tries to be strong, it will be a blessing if they can.

  • t702 Las Vegas, NV
    June 27, 2014 3:14 p.m.

    Great advice but my way is better because it works for me. There are certain things in life that no matter how hard I try, it does not fit.

  • wahului Stockton, CA
    June 27, 2014 2:46 p.m.

    Is Vai published in Washington DC???

  • cycleon Boise, ID
    June 27, 2014 2:17 p.m.

    I was just wondering what the world would look like if all adhered to this message? The world would prosper from a well adjusted society and productivity would rise due to the proper teaching of a work ethic. This is a price I'd be willing to pay - sign me up!

  • Flyer St. George, UT
    June 27, 2014 2:01 p.m.

    Great advice, insight, and perspective. I appreciate Vai's contributions to the Deseret News.

  • Casey See FLOWER MOUND, TX
    June 27, 2014 1:16 p.m.

    to San Diego Charger Fan

    Good companies understand the need for family time. I travel a lot for my current position, but when important dates roll around (birthdates, planned vacations, etc), I have been told, your family is important, we can handle it here.

    I have previously worked for other companies that aren't as willing to make sure family time is kept, (even when they say they strive for work / life balance). I am glad I changed companies. I am paid more now and enjoy work more as well. So look for another position if your company really interferes with seeing your family.

    I still have to travel, but I know that if needed, I can be home. I have even told other companies that wanted to offer less travel and more money, go pound sand, because they didn't seem to really value employees.

    My two cents probably worth even less.

  • Y Grad / Y Dad Richland, WA
    June 27, 2014 1:04 p.m.

    San Diego Chargers Fan

    Depending on your market value, or mine, our approaches may have to be different, but the values can remain the same. My manager makes accommodations for my family and my church service as well, partly because she knows I am all the more fiercely devoted to my work objectives and the people I serve. I was lucky. Another devoted family-and-church man paved the way before me.

    Vai tells a great story. Don't miss the underlying value. Put the Kingdom of God (especially your family) first, then if you seek for riches, you'll get them with the intent to do good.

  • San Diego Chargers Fan San Diego, CA
    June 27, 2014 12:17 p.m.

    If I ever told my boss to "go pound sand" so that I can have the luxury of eating dinner with my kids, I would probably be fired and forced to find new work, probably taking two or three part-time jobs, and virtually guaranteeing that I would never see my kids. My new employment situation would mean that I would likely be working on Sundays and weeknights too, virtually guaranteeing that I would never be able to "build the kingdom" in any meaningful way.

    Work hard and support your wife's desire to be with her kids all day. Or, tell your boss that you demand to see your kids. But only highly sought after sports personalities appear to have the luxury to do both.

  • Utah'95 FPO, AE
    June 27, 2014 11:45 a.m.

    Another great article, Vai. Keep them coming!

  • Pearl.94 Riverton, UT
    June 27, 2014 11:21 a.m.

    Thank you for you example Vai. Your understanding of the true prupose of this life is inspiring. I wish that more of us had the daily courage put our convictions into practice the way you seem to.

  • goosehuntr Tooele, UT
    June 27, 2014 10:37 a.m.

    Vai, that is doing it right. May God continue to bless your efforts at walking through this life on the right path... I know you have blessed my life by the fierceness of your faith. I am convinced you really, truly do know that it is all true. If you are deceived, stay deceived. You are doing a marvelous work as one who is deceived!!!

  • Mormon Ute Kaysville, UT
    June 27, 2014 9:19 a.m.

    Great advice Vai. Your family is blessed to have your perspective.