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Published: Thursday, June 26 2014 12:00 a.m. MDT

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RanchHand
Huntsville, UT

Congratulations Tracey.

It does boggle the mind, doesn't it?

gmlewis
Houston, TX

You said it! We married on a shoe-string 40 years ago, and are likewise happy and looking forward to celebrating our 100th anniversary in the hereafter. The only thing that would have made our marriage better is for our friends to not have pulled pranks with our car during the simple reception. That is a bad custom that just won't go away.

Hutterite
American Fork, UT

The promotion of weddings as a self feeding frenzy is obscene. I keep telling the kids to elope; we'll come too. The Dominican, or Varadero in Cuba. Someplace like that.

cjb
Bountiful, UT

If you have to pay for a wedding on credit, don't spend any more on it than the cost of the wedding license and what ever you have to pay the official that marries you. This shouldn't cost more than $100 total.

Kora
Cedar Hills, UT

Why do people spend so much on weddings? I don't get $30-40,000 as the average. Money better saved for a down payment for a house instead of bad debt.

ordinaryfolks
seattle, WA

Recently, a sibling of mine and I offered a mutual niece cash for a start up in her forthcoming marriage. The amount was rather large, and would have made a down payment on a home for her or served to pay off student loans. We did not want this money to be used for an elaborate wedding, and placed that condition on the money. We did not want our money wasted on a thousand dollar cake, hundreds for one champagne toast, thousands for a one use dress and so on. (We did offer some alternatives, but were turned down.)

Big mistake. This child became resentful, and as a consequence, does not wish her aunt and uncle at her wedding. It seems that the desire to be queen for a day is more important than a good start in life. She presumably will go into debt for her party.

I don't understand this mentality. Something is terribly wrong in our society to place such emphasis on the trivialities of ceremony and parties in a wedding.

Mike Richards
South Jordan, Utah

Marriage is not about money. It is not about public acclaim. It is a union decreed by God to be everlasting for the purpose of creating a family that is eternal. Some reject eternal promises for temporary satisfaction. Many do not understand that concept of marriage. Divorce has shown that many will dissolve a marriage if "happiness" is not part of their every-day life. They have no idea about commitment and sacrifice. They think only of themselves. Many diminish themselves when they accept less than God's doctrine of marriage. When done properly, the cost of "marriage" should be almost nothing, but the importance of marriage should be inestimable.

nycut
New York, NY

Marriage: "It is a union decreed by God to be everlasting for the purpose of creating a family that is eternal"

Oh Mike Richards.

That's what YOU say marriage is.

Not only an expert on who should be married and why, you've got a plan for how they should do it and how they should feel about it. The moral certitude you bring to these threads is, at least, consistent.

People fall in love and want to shout it from the rooftops! If that means a big party with a hundred-piece orchestra and dancing elephants or Chinese delivery and a limbo contest at the community center-- great! Grab a chicken kabob and hug the bride. Or brides! It's their wedding. Share the love.

Mike Richards
South Jordan, Utah

@ nycut,

May I respectfully ask you to read, "The Family: A Proclamation to the World"? As Amos told us, "Surely the Lord God will do nothing, but he revealeth his secret unto his servants the prophets." Just as God spoke to us through Adam, Noah, Moses and all the other prophets in the Old Testament, through Peter, James, John and the other prophets of the New Testament, He still speaks to the world through prophets today. You have the opportunity to listen to them, to ponder God's message to His children through them, and then to decide whether you will follow God or whether you prefer to follow whatever else it is that pleases you.

I have no problem with people celebrating marriage. It is a ceremony that should be celebrated. The fact that it CAN be the start of an eternal courtship that lasts for eternity CAN make that day even more special.

LOU Montana
Pueblo, CO

Take a trip to Montana and see how a real wedding is done. Simple and loving with the smell of the mountains.

Extreme weddings are a huge waste of money!

deniron
Effurun/Nigeria, 00

Pleasing friends and sometimes showing pride has made many to be involved in debts in executing their marriage. At the end of the day they pay what they owe and go hungry. Men should be anxiously engaged in observing those who have spent much and decide what is good for them.

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