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Published: Tuesday, June 24 2014 3:25 p.m. MDT

Updated: Tuesday, June 24 2014 11:43 p.m. MDT

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gmlewis
Houston, TX

Nobody is perfectly ready for marriage and children, but everyone can learn how to do it if they approach the goal with love and humility. The grand secret is not giving up on yourself or each other, and be willing to forgive freely.

dr.bridell
mclean, VA

Right on gmlewis, where is the courage that allows people to say "I'm not deterred by political correctness or scare tactics about how much kids cost, or nonsense about population explosion--I think I can raise responsible children who contribute to society and who teach me to be a better person in the process."
Sometimes when you watch the media and the Internet, it seems like there is a giant conspiracy to discourage marriage, commitment, and having kids.
Actually, maybe there IS a conspiracy like that! I wonder who is running it!

Church member
North Salt Lake, UT

I chose to get married young and have children. It was the right decision for me and my wife. We have a very happy family. But I also have friends who never got married or had children and they are very happy and fulfilled in their lives. I think that they made the right decision for their lives. I don't think that there is one right way to live a great life. What works for me might not work for you and vice versa.

I guess I don't get the idea of trying to tell everyone to live the way you live your life, as if anyone has all the answers. I feel like these authors are so certain that their opinions are always right. Not all people want or should have children. Just because you believe your way of life is the best way doesn't make it true. A little humility goes a long way. No one has all the answers or all the truth.

Mamamama
Salt lake city, UT

You can thank Glenn Beck, Fox news, the NRA etc for selling the fear ideas. Of course and then there is pollution, climate change, social media, the NRA ........and many more. My kids were out of school before there so many school shootings.

dr.bridell
mclean, VA

Come on "Church member"!
The Eyres are not trying to tell you how to live or whether or not to have children. They are just saying that it is too bad when people make decisions not to have kids based on statistics that are not true!

Church member
North Salt Lake, UT

To: dr.bridell

I disagree. The Eyres think that everyone should join their church and live their life exactly the way the Eyres do. They have not given enough thought to the fact that maybe they are the ones who are wrong. :)

andy315salt Lake City,UT
SALT LAKE CITY, UT

This article ignores that humanity is still adding about 60 to 70 million people per year (the population of Germany) and the environmental consequences of an overloaded planet. The author also need to check his statistics. There are 196 nations states and not 224.

speakingofpop
USA, UT

The latest from Linda and Richard Eyre is a lament for a perceived loss of “marriage, commitments, family, and children.”

But, underlying their musings into statistics, the media, and imagined deleterious effects on The American Family is the premise that “more is better.” More marriage (which I can only imagine they would define as a legally binding union between, and only between, “one man and one woman”); more children. But, to what end?

Why not more love, more attention, more affection, more resources, more time, more connection to nature, and more opportunities to our one or two children so that they can live more fully realized lives that are more full of everything good, and thus are more able to give to their children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and the world?

Darth Veider
San Francisco, CA

So two adults in love don't want to get married because the statistics are bad? Right. I don't know any single adult who isn't married because of statistics. People don't get married because they want to change partners with ease, they want to pursue other dreams (yes, not all dreams involve family), they want to enjoy life, etc. Why that trend has increased? It's because being single and childless is now more socially permissible than it was before, particularly for women. We will never know how many people in the past got married because of societal pressures. We'll never know how many lived in miserable marriages because they were afraid that divorce will ban them from society. Societal norms have loosened up a bit. It's a good thing. Freedom is a good thing.

SAMN
Patchogue, NY

There will always be people who want to get married and have children and there will always be people who don't.

You've got to have children for the right reasons. If you are just looking for a mini-me, well your child might not turn out to have the personality or likes/interests that you were hoping for. And you have to allow a child to be themselves, not a miniature version of yourself. Having a child for old age insurance is wrong too, and doesn't always work out that way. A family member works in a hospital and he sees lots of older patients whose children are not there with them.

Just like not all people without children are lonely in old age. They can have rich friendships.

If someone wants to have a large family, good for them.
If someone doesn't want to have a large family, or any family at all, good for them too.

We need to stop trying to tear down that which doesn't resemble what we see in the mirror.

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