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Published: Thursday, June 19 2014 4:25 p.m. MDT

Updated: Friday, June 20 2014 2:27 p.m. MDT

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BYUalum
South Jordan, UT

Vai, you are simply amazing! What a great example to all of us. Thanks for sharing.

Casey See
FLOWER MOUND, TX

I am so glad that he is finally continuing the story. I was thinking that their friends saw the column and asked that he not continue relating personal events. Glad to see that appears not to be the case. I look forward to the next chapter in this story.

I hope that my family and I might have a similar experience. So far, we have had a few friends over and even fewer first discussions, but nothing more has happened yet. Not giving up though.

Kjirstin Youngberg
Mapleton, UT

Even if all these meetings do is create lasting friendships, and cause them to become active in the religions of their youth, this has been a win-win. Congratulations on making new friends! Being open and loving, like opening your home up for someone to "spend the summer" is great. Members who live the gospel can do this anytime.

Red
San Antonia, TX

Vai,

You are a great example to all of us lazy Utah Mormons. Way to go!

There is no doubt that we all can do more.

The truth is going to roll forward no matter how many conspiring men try to stop it.

Our society is so focused on our selfish comforts and desires that it's scary. One reason same gender attraction is running wild is that everyone is sitting around wondering about themselves.

Let's focus on others and make this world a better place.

Good work Vai.

Ironhide
Salt Lake City, UT

Perfect. Sharing something that means so much to you doesn't have to end in conversion or Awkwardville. If there are people in your life that are close enough to you to share these deep convictions, their response should have no baring on your relationship going forward. In fact, the only impact should be positive. Often rejection, aka agency, somehow equals irrational thoughts like; you don't love me, care about me, know me, value what I think, feel, believe or practice. It is none of those things. The difference maker can be with those sharing beliefs to manage expectations of the outcome. Are you sharing due to pressure? Are you sharing so you have a story to tell in church? Or are you truly reaching out to someone you felt prompted to? The real motivation will be exposed in the end.

A Scientist
Provo, UT

"Sharing something that means so much to you doesn't have to end in conversion or Awkwardville. If there are people in your life that are close enough to you to share these deep convictions, their response should have no baring on your relationship going forward."

Oh, how I wish that had been my experience!

For every one LDS person like Vai, I have personally known ten who have tried to convert me, then dropped me like a piece of trash in a bin when I did not commit to baptism.

Several times, I tactfully explained to Ward members (usually home teachers) that people in the past had feigned friendship to try and convert me, then disappeared once their "assignment" was over or I had not joined. Upon hearing it, they promised, gave their "testimony" that they would not disappear. They would be my friend no matter what, and would visit even after being reassigned.

None of them kept their promises. Not a single one in over thirty years.

Mormon Ute
Kaysville, UT

Vai,

Thanks for sharing such an inspirational experience with us.

A Scientist, oh how I wish I could meet you. I'm saddened by the experiences you've had. I hope our paths cross some day and I can become the Mormon friend you've never had.

Chris B
Salt Lake City, UT

scientist,

And how many of those people did you go and visit? If its a friendship, shouldn't it go both ways?

And I'm not even a Mormon

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