A big part of the story has not been told and should have gone back further into
the Haws Family Tree. I knew Marty's Father Ralph in Midvale, UT when
Marty was just born. Ralph was a terrific educator, spiritual man, and terrific
basketball player in his own right. Ralph's speed, ball handling, and
shooting ability are built into the Haws Family genes. So son and
grandson's have just inherited some great Family DNA.
Most of what I know about the Haws family has come through the media. Of course
we all remember the great player that Marty was at BYU and when a father or
mother has played at that level they can be a tremendous asset to their own
children if the kids have interest in sports. What I do know is that I was the
head coach of an opposing team from another part of the state who played Lone
Peak in a tournament when Tyler was a freshman. We stayed with them for maybe a
quarter and lost by over twenty, but the thing that I will always remember about
Tyler was how humble and modest he was about his success. That is a rare thing
in this day and age. I also think that Coach Lewis has done a tremendous job in
helping his players and their parents keep their egos in check as far as the
team is concerned. That has got to be a very big challenge with so much talent.
Lone Peak and the few players that I have known and visited with over the years
have represented the state of Utah very well.
I shed a tear when I read Mack 2828 due to the fact that he was down on himself.
Things do change and people change including our own children as maturity
occurs. Patience is the answer and reading articles like this do offer ideas to
help all. Feeling alone and incompetent and comparing oneself to others is not
the answer. Faith and hope offer a great deal more.
Not only has Marty taught his boys, but Marty's father helped with his
and sometimes, even when fathers have done the best they possibly could, their
children still choose difficult paths. The reality is, these children were
blessed with athletic talent and they were able to succeed at sports. Success
breeds success, and when everyone is rolling out the red carpet, it is easy to
walk. Countless other kids could spend the same amount of time practicing and
not get there. I am happy for this family that everything seems to be going
their way, but I do not subsubscribe to the notion that children are who they
are 100% because of the parents. Kids ultimately choose their paths, in spite of
- or because of - their parents. Nice to know some have not had to climb their
own Rocky Ridge and can bask in the glory of having perfect children. Thanks for
the reminder that we're all lesser fathers.
(Marty) Haws was a guard and his sons play with the ball. I think he could be a
good assistant for BYU but working with the big men might not be exactly his
I know these kind of articles are meant to inspire young fathers and encourage
them to do all they can to raise good young men. I certainly applaud that. But, and I say this respectfully, for some (like me) who have tried hard
and still had their children grow up to be failures in life, it produces a lot
of feelings of guilt and shame and even a little jealousy towards the Haw's
family. It's especially painful for me because, although I
didn't know him, I was a student at BYU when Marty Haws was there and our
kids are almost exactly the same age.Someday I will learn to just
not click on an article like this.
Why isn't Haws an assistant coach at BYU?IF he can develop his
kids talents just think what he can do with the kids at BYU. Especially the big
men who are not being developed and haven't for years.
Sounds like a great family. I have two questions that hopefully someone can
answer: What does TJ stand for and what does Marty do for a living. I am always
curious as to what former athletes do after their playing days and in this case
I am even more curious because he has produced two great athletes who have the
potential to perform at the professional level. Thanks to whoever can answer my
I like using basketball as a vehicle for life.
Great column Dick. I have great admiration for the Haws family, for their
actions, and their humility. Unlike many in sport, the are not self promoting,
they just go out and do the job. Great example to all fathers.
There was Marty and now Tyler and will see TJ coming after his mission to play
at BYU. Now I can see more Haws boys (grand kids) many years to come at the Y.
Marty was something at the Y and always has been a humble guy. Happy Fathers