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Published: Tuesday, June 3 2014 4:20 p.m. MDT

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Shaun
Sandy, UT

I guess Susan Boyle is what men should be attracted to then. Let's not pretend that physical appearance and attraction are not important in courtship and a relationship. They are.

Also modesty is in the eye of the beholder. Many women claim to be "modest" but are not compared to women 50 years ago.

PurpleUnicorn
New Zealand, 00

What I dont understand is the need to expose these body parts... Don't worry boys the fact that you cant see my belly button doesnt mean I dont have one lol.

EternalPerspective
Eldersburg, MD

Indulging in carnal appetites with immodesty and sexual exploitations is a direct contradiction of practicing self-control. Both choices have repercussions for nations, cultures, and the like.

When a person wears revealing clothing that shows body parts meant to remain clothed, this sends the message of promiscuity. It can stir up lust in others who find them attractive. People who dress immodestly do not (at that time) hold their bodies as a sacred gift from God, the same as mutilations like tattoos, piercings, etc. that defile.

Immodesty fast becoming acceptable in popular culture is not a victimless crime. Just like no one can tell who might be addicted to alcohol or drugs unless choosing to consume, so too, sexual addictions and sins cannot be seen until temptations overcome. It’s better never to have indulged them.

Trends today are evidence of people defiling their bodies contrary to God's will and laws. When that choice is made, the Spirit of the Lord is grieved and slowly starts to depart from a person until they are left to their own intelligence in darkness. It's sad but true. Many cannot see this reality.

Schnee
Salt Lake City, UT

@EternalPerspective
"When a person wears revealing clothing that shows body parts meant to remain clothed, this sends the message of promiscuity. It can stir up lust in others who find them attractive. "

When one is completely focused on highlighting something as a negative that they've now completely branded certain attire as promiscuous, they've made the exact objectification that they consider a problem. This is the problem with pushing for modesty. Shaming women because their shorts don't reach their knees or they're wearing a tank top or whatever arbitrary standard being set ends up involving associating those women with sex because you branded that clothing that way.

Once a standard is set as a threshold for modesty, then the people who believe that standard are going to use it, no matter where it's at, whether it be burkas in the Middle East, or other third world nations where women being topless is not atypical. The sexualization comes from those who decide that a certain thing has a sexual symbolism and there's a big difference on that between the U.S., Saudi Arabia, and Ecuador.

RedWings
CLEARFIELD, UT

Schnee -

I look at modesty as a way to show respect for women. Study after study has shown how men objectify women. In large part this is the result of sexually explicit advertising and porn. When a man sees a suggestive image of a woman, the same part of the brain is activated as when he sees a picture of a power drill! Women are tools to men!

As a recovering porn addict, I would obviously prefer that women dress more modestly. But my addiction is my problem, not theirs. They did not cause it. I would love to be able to look at a women and see an intelligent, bright, wonderful person. That is hard for me, and I wish it were not.

I would hope that young women would see their own inheirent worth as human beings and demand that respect from young men by refusing to "dress to impress". Sadly, our lack of moral standards will limit that....

Lilalips
Attleboro, MA

In the world of business men dress and look like robots. I suppose even on Sunday, it is the same. Why is that? Because they don't need to draw attention to something as meaningless as skin or wild fashion. They see being too flamboyant as distraction. Women, on the other hand, seem to need to be noticed. They WANT to be a distraction...or so it would seem. Women need to band together and reinforce the notion that their thoughts, their actions, their minds, their intelligence, are what are important. NOT what they wear or don't wear. To that end, they need to show that they are focused on what is truly meaningful. Women need to show by their dress that they are focused on the job at hand, on character, knowledge and intelligence. But it is wrong to think that men objectify women. WOMEN objectify women. We need to teach them when they are young that they are valued for their minds MORE than their beauty. That means more focus in Young Women's on reading the classics and the study of science over nails and facials.

Schnee
Salt Lake City, UT

@Redwings
"Study after study has shown how men objectify women. In large part this is the result of sexually explicit advertising and porn. When a man sees a suggestive image of a woman, the same part of the brain is activated as when he sees a picture of a power drill!"

Understood. I just feel like suggesting a woman is immodest because they wear such and such is just a different way of objectifying her and unintentionally suggests its' a womans' responsibility what the result of men is.

Sore loser
tampa, fl

The best way to judge the appropriateness of one's dress is found in Isaiah referencing pride and bravery. verse 18: In that day the Lord will take away the bravery of their tinkling ornaments about their feet, and their cauls, and their round tires like the moon,

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