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Published: Friday, May 30 2014 9:35 p.m. MDT

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Blue Dandelion
Flower Mound, TX

My daughter was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) when she was about 13. She's now 19. It was interesting to hear that children of anxious parents have an increased chance of developing it.

But I'd like to (respectfully) disagree with the last statement in this article--that the most important thing is helping the child know that he/she is not alone and that he/she can overcome it. Nothing in our experience (and we've been through psychiatrists; psychologists; school counselors; and several doctors) has led me to believe that it helps her to know that she's not alone. The anxiety overwhelms everything else and, to be blunt, she's too busy dealing with it to be comforted by the fact that others have a similar condition. Likewise, there has been nothing whatsoever to suggest that she can overcome it. For her--and for others like her--it's learning to manage it that's key.

That said, I appreciate the article and am glad to see that mental health issues are garnering more attention overall.

slcdenizen
Murray, UT

@Blue Dandelion

I'm glad your daughter has a recognition of what ails her. My siblings and I likewise experience anxiety and three have been treated with anti-anxiety drugs. Unfortunately we had all become adults by the time we realized the main issue. The most negative aspect of this familial trait was at times the personal blame and frustration that accompanied periods of anxiety. While we now openly discuss the issue and at times jest about how crazy we can be, it's difficult to think about the mistakes each of us could have avoided had we been better equipped to face life with an understanding of anxiety, and tools with which to deal with it. I too am glad these types of studies are being pursued in order to further our understanding of the mind.

Yorkshire
City, Ut

from Article: "It's important that you have the same expectations of your anxious child that you would of another child," psychologist Lynne Siqueland [said]...According to Anxiety BC, the most important thing a parent can do is help their child understand that they are not alone with their anxiety, and that they can overcome it."

Imagine this advise for the parents of a blind child.

And the results.

"Honey, we are treating you like our other children, even though you are blind. Now you get out there and practice driving like everybody else."

And

"You are not alone. There are many blind people. And you can over come this blindness if you remember that."

Oh brother.
Once again proving that all illnesses seem to be supported and empathized with-- except mental illness. They are to be handled with a stiff upper lip.

vellanova
Perry, UT

The title of the article is bogus. The study didn't show that anxious parents are likely to have anxious children, but rather that interventional therapy appeared to be very effective at keeping children of anxious parents from developing anxiety.

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