@ John LockeThe shooter was suffering from Asperger Syndrome. He
had issues with social interaction for his entire life, and was obviously not
well mentally. Sadly, spending more time with their kid probably wouldn't
have made much of a difference. It's too bad it had to end the way it did,
and I think we're all sending our prayers to the victims and their
@Rockyrd:It's always someone else's fault. It's the
movie industry. It's America. It's video games.Let it go.
Violent games have always been popular even before we had electricity and will
continue to be. What do you propose; we let Congress or some shadowy committee
decide what games we can allow our kids to play?
I would not wish something like this on even my worst enemy. These poor
families who have lost their loved ones. It's just senseless. It seems to
me that every time something like this happens, it reminds us of the frailty
that is this mortal life. A smile, a handshake, a look, or the lack there of.
It's the little things that matter. This Rodger kid seemed to need a lot
of those little things. He was starved for recognition. There is no condoning
what this man did, and there was no way for lucky, and probably those who died
in these acts if cruelty, to know they had offended this man. But this sad
story calls into question our personal relationships in life and how our actions
effect others. Please, do not get me wrong. Mr Rodger, and only Mr. Rodger is
to blame for this tragedy. My question is how did his parents or family members
not see this coming? Each and every one of us search for validation in our
lives, but his family had to know something was not right long before this
tragedy occurred. So sad.
Money can buy anything...except happiness, for oneself or for your children. It
is not a substitute for spending time with your children. "I gave him
everything," is not the same as "I spent much of my free time with
him."This kid is a product of his life of indulgence by his
parents and stepmother. If they had given him responsibility instead of
allowing him to "play games," all of the time, he might have appreciated
where all of the money came from. Driving a BMW and living in a
posh area of California didn't help him at all. He needed to earn his way
to feel some confidence in himself, and, meet other people who were not at the
same financial level as himself. I feel sorry for the families that
had to suffer because he was not a responsible individual, nor, apparently, were
his parents, with him, leaving him alone most of the time. Lucky,
was just that, Lucky that he could avoid a friendship with him and be dragged
into his fantasy world as a youth.
I would like some enterprising reporter to investigate the link between these
mass murderers and violent video games. Is there a connection? I'd bet on
We all need to look with compassion on everyone around us and not assume that
they're all doing fine. It's a shame that Rodgers had this pressure
and loathing building up year after year, but we all need to be conscious of the
needs of those around us, even if we don't think there's anything
wrong. What an unfortunate situation.
Nothing I can say that hasn't been said, just a sad thing that you can
blame others for your pathetic life, but hopefully Radley can put this sick
individual out of his mind and keep living his life like he should, not his
fault this kid is messed up.
It's all too easy to point a finger at society at large. I agree with Wilf
that Radley is not a victim here though of course he is shook up to find himself
mentioned on this list. Who wouldn't be? Rodgers clearly needed some
counseling at the very least and at an early age. Cougsndawgs has it summed up
pretty well. I hope Radley will not let it get in his head too much though I
don't know how I would process that myself, if it were me.
Wilf 55:"Radley is the victim of an American culture which is
too focused on popularity: winning, awards, prizes, success . . it can lead to
morbid jealousy . . the American dating system in particular can lead to immense
frustrations for the 'unpopular kid' . . In most of the rest of the
world young people go out in groups and have fun together without a premature
focus of one on another, which excludes a third."Radley is a
"victim"? Really? He was mentioned by this psycho and is rightly
disturbed by the fact, but to call him a victim is to basically strip the word
of all meaning.And the "Blame America" sentiment?
Puh-leeeeze. The pursuit of athletic/academic achievement is not an American
invention, nor are jealousy and frustration over girls. Are we to believe that
the jock doesn't get more female attention in other countries? Absurd.Funny you complain about the lack of "group activities" for
young people in America. It seems I'm seeing a lot of articles/comments
about the lack of actual dating in favor of too much "hanging out,"
which sounds like what you're pining for. I'm confused.
Radley is fortunate to have a team/family around him to turn to. This has to be
tough. Put this behind you and move forward, young man...your future is
bright.CougsndawgsWest Point , UTAlways a first
class and honest comment. We could all learn to post more responsibly from your
example. Thank you.
I am a bit confused by some of the comments here which point a finger at the
worth or worthlessness of athletics. Personally, i'm not into sports all
that much, but I don't harbor ill will at those who are - just different
tastes.What we are dealing with here is someone who, for what ever
reason - probably a mental illness - though even that is a broad explanation,
set out on a mission to kill people. That people were on a target list should
not imply anything other than they were on a list that might have had and did
have serious repercussions. In the end, the objective is to look for ways to
avoid such tragedy in the future; not to point fingers at those who might have
come into contact with the aggressor for how ever brief a moment in time.
@Hutterite, I am sorry, but I could not disagree more. The fact that millions
of people turn up to watch athletes perform on a regular basis proves that it
has its place. The fact that it gives great kids from poor neighbourhoods a
chance to change their lives in ways that they might never otherwise have proves
that it has its place. The fact that it provides an ability to showcase
one's ability and use God-given talent proves it has its place.Where I would agree with you, I think, is that it should never be used in a
way that demeans another. That is also the same with brains, good looks, or any
other talent we may have though. The tragedy in all of this is the
taking of the lives of these young people. (I incude Mr Rodgers in that
statement of regret, as he sounds as though he was unsuccessfully fighting an
illness. We always look in a kindly manner upon cancer sufferers, and yet
forget that mental illness is also worthy of compassion. God bless all of the
We should no longer give a voice to these mass murderers. It would be far
better that they remain nameless and only the victims be remembered. The fame
was why this man killed. He wasn't mentally ill. He was pure hatred. The
media including this newspaper should strike his name from all reports and let
his hatred fade away into the dust along with all the ilk like him.
I feel sad for the families of all the victims of that troubled young man. Also
sad that Mr. Radley's brief association with the killer is singled out as
partly the reason for his extreme hate and jealousy. I hope Mr. Radley would
not loose any sleep over it and continue to focus on his own goals and plans for
the future. He seems to be a fine young man with a bright future at Utah and as
a member of the Utes' football team.Good luck in the future,
@Cougsndawgs 9:28 p.m. May 26, 2014 Escellent analyis and
comment. I think you're exactly right in every regard. It saddens me that
Radley had to get caught in the blow-back from a truly sick individual's
Radley is the victim of an American culture which is too focused on popularity:
winning, awards, prizes, success... It's embedded in our system from the
earliest age on. To a certain extent it can be motivating, if kept within
bounds, but it can also lead to morbid jealousy. As the Rodgers tragedy shows,
the American dating system in particular can lead to immense frustrations for
the "unpopular kid". In most of the rest of the world young people go
out in groups and have fun together without a premature focus of one on another,
which excludes a third.
Cougsndawgs - well said. Exactly what I was going to post.
That's crazy.Don't let it phase you Lucky. Keep your head
up, and keep moving forward. LGI
I don't blame him at all...I'd be pretty freaked out too! Especially
when you have no idea that this kid you barely knew had such animosity toward
you. Bottom line is this Rodgers guy never fit in and felt ostracized or
belittled by society and probably picked out guys he was jealous of to project
his hatred on, when the person he probably hated most was himself...sad. I wish
Radley the best in overcoming the heartache and loss felt by his community.