All I can say is that a BYU star is under a microscope. When a transgression of
the rules are revealed in a public expose, it is embarrassing for all. This
expose was a low trick. In no other context would this event have been
publicized by BYU. I've had boy scouts do worse (think giant booze and pot
party at home with mom and dad are out of town). We did not ostracise the kids,
but helped them. The instigator later went on a mission.I've
long been critical of the Standards Office public treatment of athletes. So one
good thing came out of this: privacy for the athletes instead of national
headlines. When I was at Washington, a few of the football players started a bar
fight and hospitalized a guy. The Seattle papers did not report the story. The
culprits were unpunished. Not sure that would happen now, but at BYU they would
have been expelled. I'm OK with that. A kid having a beer? Naw. Keep this
private, and minor.
When Hadley was in High School, I had more then a few opportunities to cheer
against him. My sons attended a rival high school and were familiar opponents.
Football, basketball and track he did it all...and was a standout. There is much
to admire within Spencer and his family. Obviously I have watched
this past seasons football events with interest. I've met him and his
father, watched his brother and cousins play and been very aware of who they all
are. This is a non story without the football notoriety. I am pleased that
Spencer has put some things together, and had a chance to grow and overcome
challenges. Good luck to him in the future!
@ Kayesville CougarBeing compared to Chris B is probably the worst
insult I could imagine. Not surprising, whenever you post something
regarding a player on your team, yes I am a BYU fan, somebody doesn't like
it.. too bad.BTW, I sit right behind the visiting teams bench at all
our home games.
We have a new Chris B. and it appears to be our favorite uncle. I wish Spencer
all the best in his future. It's apparent that he is trying to become a
better man. Not all of his challenges did he bring on himself. Hope he can
continue to overcome. I hope he succeeds in the NFL, and more importantly in
Him being hurt is not the real reason that he didn't play.
@ Uncle Rico:"Why was the photo controversial?"Because
the photo had been taken months prior, and then saved/released to come out just
prior to the BYU/Utah game by a self-described "Huge Utah Fan," and sent
not to the BYU Standards office, but to an outside organization in a very public
way. That doesn't seem at all controversial to you? With
nearly every post by nearly every Utah "fan," on a BYU article that has
nothing to do with the UofU, you all reaffirm the stereotype.
Hadley got held to a higher standard, as he should have been. It saddened me to
see that photo, but he should have had more sense and adhered to the standards
that he promised that he'd uphold. I can't say that I've never
succombed to temptation, but one of the ways that I handle it is to not put
myself in the spot in the first place where I would have to make the decision.
I know my weaknesses and I just don't go there. It's made my life
much more simple. I try not to do anything or be anywhere that will embaress
me, my family, or my church. Doesn't always work but I have a lot less to
worry about because I'm on constant watch.Now that is behind
him, I'm glad that he's taken steps to do better and make himself
better. It will only benefit him in the long run. I wish him a lot of luck.
@ Third Barker"Some on here just love to confess other
people's sins! They live by a lower standard for themselves..... "Wow a lot of pent up emotion! I think your statement is more of a
reflection on yourself and your experiences than anything written here.just sayin...
I know many BYU fans love Spencer Hadley and think he is a great player. I think
he benefitted by teams focusing on Van Noy. I was shocked to see him sign
anywhere. Good for him. I wish him all the best.We all have made
mistakes and have skeletons in our closets. Hadley caused his own problem by
forgetting who he really was and what he stood for. It is not important how the
reminder occurred but is important that it caused him to reflect on what was
really important in life. He learned and grew from that hard experience.I remind all that Hadley violated the honor code but not the law. Others
in recent history broke the honor code and the law. Certainly on the surface one
is worse than the other.I am not a BYU fan but I am a Spencer Hadley
fan. I only wish him all the best.Go Utes!
The story is about a couragous young man who admits struggling and overcoming.
Now thats a real man. No self rightousness as I read in the entries here.
You'll never know until walk in his shoes.
@ DonO. "Holier than thou"? I have heard that derogatory phrase hurled
at BYU but I do not know what it means. Can anyone associated with the U of U be
"holier than thou"? How about Utah State or Notre Dame? Or can only BYU
people be "holier than thou" exclusively? Sounds like jealousy or envy
or perhaps even rebellion against anyone trying to achieve a higher standard to
me. If someone might fail living the higher standard are the rest all
"holier than thou"? Perhaps it is just an attempt for some to feel
better about lower standards of personal conduct? Last I heard BYU turns way
dozens of qualified applicants for everyone who is admitted. The demand is
greater than the supply so apparently there are many who would happily be
"holier than thou", if they only could.
Good for Hadley. IMO, one positive outcome of his highly publicized suspension
was BYU changing it's "holier than thou" means of trumpeting its
honor code violations.
Some on here just love to confess other people's sins! They live by a lower
standard for themselves but demand much more of others. They are joyous when
others who are part of something special or have achieved something special in
their lives stumble and fall. They are always irritated when they see someone
else overcome because they themselves have never overcome anything. If they
can't or won't do it, no one else should be allowed either!
I'm glad that he got picked up. He was having a great year, before he got
suspended. I hope he can return to the same Hadley that we saw before his
suspension. He was every bit as quick and explosive as Van Noy. If he can do
that he'll be a steal for the Saints. It's unfortunate that his
suspension played out in such a public way. In the grand scheme of things it was
a relatively minor infraction that got blown out of proportion just because he
was attending BYU.
Caman,The rest of the world only knows what the mystery person said,
and that was that he was a Utah "fan." We don't know for sure, but
denying the likelihood would only make one look foolish. But that wouldn't
be atypical for Utah "fans"
Re: Ken "I'm a Utah fan but it was a low move by that Utah fan who did
that."Low move by a Utah fan? Do you know something that the
rest of the world doesn't?
I agree with the Sandy Uncle Rico.
I think its shameful that the news media just kicked him while he was down. And
the other question is why Did Jamal Williams not get suspended for drinking? I
feel like everyone should be held to the same standard.
Rico,I'm a Utah fan but it was a low move by that Utah fan who
did that. I don't think Harmon is spinning anything - even if he says the
photo was controversial you're just picking at the wording - the
circumstances were very controversial. Taking a picture of your
opponent to act like his mom and get him in trouble? Low move. Besides, Utah
was going to win that game with or without him.
I wish Hadley all the best in his future. I too have failed and had to brush
myself off and try again. Good article.
"Then came the week of the Utah game in September. Somebody with a
controversial photo of Hadley taken in Las Vegas sent the image to Utah’s
NCAA compliance officer, and it was forwarded to BYU. "Dick, why
not just say Hadley went to vegas to party and got caught? Also why was the
photo controversial? Was it a black and white, or a Polaroid, or maybe it was
shot with a slow shutter speed? Why not just blame Hadley, not the picture?I get that you admire him, as do many of us, but please don't spin