@BifftacularNo marriage, no divorce. If two people want to be
together, let it be a daily decision. The act of a lifetime commitment becomes
too daunting for most people and affects behavior negatively. In terms of
providing a framework for a lifetime of productivity and fulfillment, those
advocating early and singular marriage are wrong.
Better yet, don't get divorced. I know it is unavoidable and completely
justified in some situations but those are the exceptions. All divorce can be
attributed to selfishness, either on one or both of the parties - pure and
simple. And "no", it doesn't take "two to get divorced".
One person can do it quite nicely on their own. Instead of thinking about
"me", think of your children, your spouse, your extended family, even
your future self and work through the issues. It isn't easy but it
wasn't meant to be easy. As people mature, things can and will work out and
life can be really, really sweet. And before I get rebuttals about how
"your" particular divorce was unavoidable and how "I'm
mean" etc, if your divorce truly was unavoidable and you didn't have
any choice in the matter, I'm not referring to "your divorce".
I'm referring to the VAST majority of divorces today that result from