Dr. Jasser is being disingenuous here. He cites the Koran to show how Islam
promotes honoring one's parents. However, he deliberately does not cite
those portions of the Koran which admonish Moslems NOT to honor their parents if
their parents are not believing Moslems. For example, Koran 60.4 tells Moslems
that Abraham is "an excellent example to follow" when he told his
parents, "We have rejected you, and there has arisen between us and you
enmity and hatred forever -- unless ye believe in God and Him alone."
Elsewhere, Allah in the Koran (8:55 and 98:6) calls non-Moslems "the vilest
of creatures" and the "lowest of animals" -- and that includes
one's parents if one's parents are not Moslem believers.
We all know people who honored their parents yet died young.This
commandment only makes sense in the context of re-incarnation. If you honor
parents you are given the opportunity to find an other set of parents (soon) so
that you may live on the earth again.
Any conscientious parent will deserve honor and respect by simply doing their
duty - which is not simple, nor is it easy.
We have been given life, which is reason enough to honor our parents. If they
are "good" to us, that is a bonus. I was raised in a kind and loving
home, so that was a bonus. Life, the opportunity to experience
mortality, is a gift that few appreciate. There have been over 55,000,000
abortions in the United States since Roe v Wade. Those babies did not have the
opportunity to draw a breath. If we live, we owe our parents. If our parents
do their duty to raise us honorably, we have an additional debt. How many "children" have destroyed their lives by rebelling against
parents? "That thy days may be long" is a promise IF we are obedient.
Learning obedience is difficult for many, but it is the first law. Saul was
told that obedience if more important than sacrifice. If we are
obedient, first to our Creator, our Father in Heaven, and then to our parents,
we will not make "stupid" mistakes. We will be spared from much of the
suffering and trauma of life.
I love my mom and dad more than anything. I can truly say that God gave so much
when He put me with them! i can honestly look back and say that I have had a
wonderful life! I was happy and I always felt their love! I hope that I honor
them as I should.
I disagree that parents need to earn their children's honor. If a parent is
decent, loving and provides for their children's needs, I think that
children owe their parents a debt of gratitude and honor. I did the math and
found that a parent is "on duty" for 175,200 hours from the birth of a
child through age twenty. They are responsible for 20,900 meals, about 50,000
pieces of laundered clothing and accoutrements as well as moral, social,
physical and emotional development. Recent studies show that it costs over
$241,000 to raise a child in America at this time. I don't know of any
other job that a person would undertake that carries that responsibility, cost
and sacrifice without a paycheck, benefits or retirement. Perhaps
Dr. Jasser's perspective speaks to his experience as a member of the Muslim
community, especially when he mentions that a parent can have a child killed for
dating or dressing improperly. I believe that in our Judeo-Christian culture,
children need to honor their parents as directed by God in the Fifth Commandment
without the parents having to do anything more to earn that respect.
"In some Muslim communities, tests as simple as choosing a mate, dating or
clothing can be life or death where dishonor can legitimize horrific abuse and
even murder — most often of women. While most Muslims do not subscribe to
such toxic definitions of honor, until our Muslim communities address the
pre-eminent, God-given rights of bodily autonomy, safety and freedom of
conscience, neither the fifth nor any of the other commandments will be truly
honored. If honor were a 12-step program, our communities are still in the first
step of denial."I hope we all realize and appreciate the courage
it takes for Dr. Jasser, a Muslim, to make that statement.
Agreed. As-salamu alaykum - Peace be upon you.