Since I was a very small child I loved children and wanted to be a Mother with 8
to 10 children. I never received that blessing but if I had been in this
women's situation I would not have hesitated to give my live that my child
would live. What a privilege for this child to know that her Mother loved her
that much she was willing to give her life for her. Bless this sweet child.
I was diagnosed with cancer at the 14 week mark in my last pregnancy when I had
to have surgery to remove an ovarian "cyst." My husband and I had
"the conversation." He was adamant that if it was between my life or
the life of the baby, he wanted me to choose myself. Thankfully, my
cancer was not thought to be a fast-growing kind and the oncologist and my
ob/gyn both thought it was safe for me to continue with the pregnancy. At 8th
months I was scheduled for a C-sect and after my ob delivered the baby my
oncologist took over to finish the surgery. That was 20 yrs ago.
I am sorry this mother didn't face such favorable odds. My deepest condolences to the family at this very
She made a very hard decision. Please don't cheapen her decision about how
to manage her cancer, or whether give her child a chance at life. Ultimately,
it was her decision, and I know it was made with much thought, considering all
options, and I am sure there were a lot of tears and second-guessing, and worry
and fear. I am sure both of the parents were well aware that she might lose the
battle and not make it after delivery, leaving him to raise their daughter
without her help. There was no guarantee she would live even if she had agreed
to abort their child. Fighting cancer is an intensely personal battle, and the
outcome is not guaranteed. Cancer is sneaky, and can come blasting right back at
you years after you are "cured" or "clear" and you think all is
well. She did the best she could to give her child life AND to fight for her
own life with all her might after delivery. For the naysayers, I hope you never
have to make decisions like this. The family needs support not heartless
critics with a political ax to grind.
@Nan BW 7:16 a.m. April 2, 2014Pagan's comment is
mysterious. Because everyone must die, we shouldn't support life? Huh?------------"Supporting life" would mean terminating
the pregnancy. That way the only living, breathing, life-in-being in the
equation (the woman) would have had a chance to survive. This was not a wise
pregnancy in the first place (the wise decision would have been to take steps to
ensure that she never got pregnant AND,if she so badly wanted a child, she could
have adopted or the couple could have used surrogacy, among other alternatives)
and the decision to continue the pregnancy also was not wise. Half-orphaning a
child (with the child knowing that s/he was the cause of her mother's
death) and widowing a spouse is never good.This is one of the VERY
few times I believe pregnancy termination is appropriate. There was nothing
heroic about this decision. Quite the contrary in fact. Sad.
Wow. Wouldn't it be nice to see THIS on national news.
@pagan, whatever are you talking about? Her pro-life choice resulted in her
baby living! She might have succumbed to cancer whether or not she chose to
keep the baby. Normally, a mother does not have to make that choice, and a
pro-life choice always is the best choice. A "pro-choice" or abortion
choice always ends with the death of the baby. Is that what you meant to say?
actually, "pagan", it doesn't end at death. at least not for
her!and it was the mother that passed on, not the child. duh.i
had a friend who made this same choice almost 20 years ago. her sweet daughter
is still alive and he father re-married. definitely the most memorable funeral i
have ever attended!
Pagan's comment is mysterious. Because everyone must die, we shouldn't
support life? Huh?
Notice, those who are Pro-life, always ends, in death.
That is true love in it's purest form.
A fine example of true love and an application of it. That child has a legacy
that will forever be enshrined upon the hearts of her family. Thanks for such a
touching and tender story.
Mikhail,I second those thoughts... A real Hero indeed!
A real hero!