Published: Tuesday, April 1 2014 9:50 a.m. MDT
30k average huh? Wow!! My kids average cost was less than 5k. With the national
divorce rate so high...and climbing....I am betting there are alot of parents
still paying off their divorced kids weddings. That's depressing.
The article seems to agree that a costly marriage is OK, since it leads to
happiness. Strange how this viewpoint is seemingly OK for the U.S., but
condemned by Elder Oaks as it pertains to Africa. See his talk on Gospel
Culture, Ensign, March 2012. Are we using double standards?
Is it worth it?Only if you can justify spending tens of thousands on
a one night affair and then reaching retirement age be as poor as a church mouse
or have to depend on and be a burden to others.
I like the statement that a marriage in your 30's is a "merger"
while a marriage earlier in your 20's is a "start up". Going
through tougher times together can bring couples closer together and make you
depend on one another. After you get your career and are
established it becomes harder to find that person that you need. Spending $30,000 on a wedding is rediculous unless you really make a lot of
money (over obamas $250,000 threshold). Even then it doesnt make sense. Start out by adhereing to your values of avoiding unnecessary debt adn
living on what you earn.
I like so watch some shows on TV about buying wedding dresses. I can't
believe the amount of dollars that are spent on one single dress. Some of theses
people have been saving for their wedding for months or even years. I've
met people who have been 'engaged' for over ten years. Give me a
break. They aren't engaged, they're cohabitating, which is none of my
business, but really? I thought that when you go engaged that you at least set a
date. I don't believe in lavish weddings. My mother make my dress, I paid
only $500 for my reception at a friends house, etc,... I feel sorry for people
who go into so much debt for a wedding. It is about commitment and love. I
can't think of a worse way to start a marriage if you go into debt over
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