One of our favorite family videos is almost the same scenario, with one
difference. We didn't find out the gender of baby number four before the
birth. So, we end up having a girl. I got out the video camera as we brought her
home for the first time. My son, nearly 6 at the time, already had two younder
sisters. So as we introduced sister number three, he just stood there, obviously
trying really, really hard not to cry, face turning red and eyes watering.
It's hilarious to watch now, but also showed something of his nature; even
when he was disappointed or upset, he didn't want to let on. He got over it
in about ten minutes.
My goodness. He is a little boy. It's perfectly fine for a little boy to be
disappointed for a few minutes and get it out. It will work out in the end.
I'm sure dad will get over it too. It's perfectly natural to want your
son to have a brother and your daughter to have a sister. The son doesn't
have a brother yet. It's not awful to admit it. Knee jerk reaction to
console the son which can't be faulted. As long as dad moves on. I'm
sure he will. Maybe the boy will get a brother next time? Maybe he will be the
The wonderful world of social media has created a world where no matter what is
posted, almost everyone has some problem to point out, complain about, or accuse
someone over. This family will be fine. People are disappointed sometimes, and
they all turn out fine. Some little boys aren't taught to cook and sew and
some little girls aren't taught to throw a football and everyone turns out
fine. Some little boys are don't want a sister and some little girls
don't want a brother and they family ends up having wonderful family
reunions for decades. I'm sure this video affords everyone a perfect look
into the lives of these family members and a perfect look into their family
dynamic, culture, and daily life. Of course people should realize they are now
the expert on this family's situation, as well as families worldwide...Everybody relax....
I'm having a hard time deciding what's the worst thing about this
video. There are so many contenders:a) Dad saying he was
disappointed, too.b) Dad telling Gunner that his feelings aren't
real, "You know you're going to love your little sister".c)
The parents actually posting this video! What message does it send to the
girls? And what message will little sister get from this?
Be brave, don't find out the gender of the baby ahead of time. There is
such a thrill when the baby comes out and then you find out the gender.People use lame excuses such as, "I need to know what color to paint the
nursery" or "I want to buy some outfits ahead of time" or
"It's easier because we can pick the name" etc. You
wouldn't open a Christmas gift under the tree a week before Christmas,
would you? Then be patient and wait for your baby to be born.Who's in?
Whoa! Gunner was having a bad day. This was so funny. Why were people so
concerned about the yet unborn child because dad said he, too, was disappointed
it was going to be a girl? He was just trying to console Gunner. And many dads
say that, but nothing comes of it. Why are people so sensitive these days? Why
do they think they can pass judgement all the time? Why do they meddle in things
that don't concern them? Yes, we need to look out for children's
welfare, but often, it goes way overboard.
"(he)just needs to teach those sisters how to throw a football and catch a
baseball like he would a little brother."Ummm..how about Mom
teaching Gunner how to cook, sew, and other "feminine" skills which will
be far more helpful to him as an adult than will skill in tossing a football.
I was/am happy that my children were born alive and well. That is when you have
That is so sad for the girls who were right there!! Maybe a little reinforcement
for the girls would of been appropriate!
"Recently, many parents have learned the gender of their baby by doing
something such as opening a box of either pink or blue balloons, hitting a
piñata that releases pink or blue confetti, or cutting into a cake with the
color pink or blue inside."I wasn't aware of this trend,
and I find it interesting. But I think I know the best way for parents to
surprise themselves about the gender of their baby: wait for it to be born. We
did it this way for all three of our kids, and I highly recommend it.
We have 4 kids and they're all boys except 3. We can relate to poor
Gunner. I'm also reminded of when I was a kid. My older siblings were
teasing me for being a "mistake" as the youngest of 6 with 5 yrs.
between myself & the next child. I went to tattle on them for being mean
but my Mom said, "Well sure, you were a mistake but, don't let it
bother you. They were all mistakes too. You think I'd have six kids on
purpose?" That gave me good ammunition and it didn't bother me again.
He'll be good big brother and just needs to teach those sisters how to
throw a football and catch a baseball like he would a little brother.