Comments about ‘Millennials plan to trade kids for careers — but it doesn't have to be that way’

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Published: Sunday, March 16 2014 2:40 p.m. MDT

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archemeedees
Tooele, UT

That's why I make sacrifices to stay at home with my children. My husband works hard at his job, I work hard stretching our dollars, and we have a smaller house and older cars than we would otherwise have. But my kids have parents and know that we love them. That's worth any sacrifice of things and expensive vacations.

riverofsun
St.George, Utah

Living in a Southern Utah community of 55 and older folks.
Surprisingly, a good number of the couples living in this community, from all over the United States, do not have children. It was a choice they made long ago. They are people with lots of education, lots of clout, and lots of money.
Children are not really welcome in this community. This can be a rather hostile place when one's family is visiting.
If one lives away from Utah, one will see this lifestyle much more often as well.

Hutterite
American Fork, UT

It doesn't have to be that way, but that appears to be the way it will be. And why not? If they don't want kids, fine.

anti-liar
Salt Lake City, UT

Without a doubt this is one of the social costs of the persistent, greed-driven effort to thrust wages ever downward. We are seeing this currently with American businessmen firing
Americans and then falsely claiming that they aren't able to FIND Americans and then claiming that the nation must to allow a large flood of foreign workers into the country and must continue to willfully refuse to enforce immigration law -- all in an effort to drive down wages.

We'd better believe this is taking a toll on the American family. Two parents having to work their heads off and not be there for their kids is NOT the way life is supposed to be. Undoubtedly, those who disseminate the idea that it IS the way life is supposed to be are the ones who benefit by paying the kind of unfair wage that would necessitate that two parents work their heads off day and night.

It only is this way because of GREED -- primarily on the part of the employers who therefore are unwilling to pay their fellow Americans a fair wage.

I know it. I Live it. I Love it.
Provo, UT

It's not just a matter of having a job that will work with you. It's also a matter of income.

* Thousands of dollars in debt just to get an associates...
* Thousands more spent on software needed for the profession...
* Not enough income to lose hours at work to continue education, to make enough to afford it all...
* Not enough income to marketing myself, etc.

While we could start a family, we can't afford the costs of building a career based on the main skill I've best excelled in and do well enough to make a living on. My career path is a hard one to get into. Very few people do it. But it's what I love, what I'm good at, and I've invested my entire life into it. Unlike so many, I won't give up on doing what I love.

Now, we plan to start a family anyway. But any advice on how to accomplish both is more than welcome. This article only really showed me people who have jobs that are flexible. My job already is flexible. That doesn't really address my problem.

joeandrade
Salt Lake City, UT

Continued population increase is a serious problem for the planet and for Utah's Wasatch Front. Those that choose to have less or even no children should not be shunned or challenged for their decisions and behavior.

The Utah Population and Environment Coalition's -- utahpopdotorg - recent radio ads called It's OK to Plan drew considerable attention and interest from the local population.

The country's very poor regulations and expectations in regard to maternal and paternal job and social benefits is another factor.

Our economy and society are in a great transition and even transformation. The old assumptions and expectations are changing - perhaps for the better.

The Caravan Moves On
Enid, OK

@ Hutterite - American Fork, UT "It doesn't have to be that way, but that appears to be the way it will be. And why not? If they don't want kids, fine."

Sure, what's wrong if NO ONE wanted kids?

That's not a problem.

That is, until we all die off.

Oops....

The Caravan Moves On
Enid, OK

A couple of comments:

1 - Please stop blaming "greedy" business owners and CEOs for being the root cause of why less people want to have kids. If someone does not want to have kids, that is THEIR choice, not some CEO's. I know lots of people who don't want to have kids because they want a 72" flat screen TV and a new BMW in the driveway. I know of no one who primarily blamed "greedy" CEOs. We need to take responsibility for our choices.

2 - Joseph Smith (yes, that Joseph Smith) once said that there would come a day when, generally speaking, the only group of people that would want to have kids were the Mormons.

Just sayin'....

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