That's why I make sacrifices to stay at home with my children. My husband
works hard at his job, I work hard stretching our dollars, and we have a smaller
house and older cars than we would otherwise have. But my kids have parents and
know that we love them. That's worth any sacrifice of things and expensive
Living in a Southern Utah community of 55 and older folks. Surprisingly, a
good number of the couples living in this community, from all over the United
States, do not have children. It was a choice they made long ago. They are
people with lots of education, lots of clout, and lots of money.Children
are not really welcome in this community. This can be a rather hostile place
when one's family is visiting.If one lives away from Utah, one will
see this lifestyle much more often as well.
It doesn't have to be that way, but that appears to be the way it will be.
And why not? If they don't want kids, fine.
Without a doubt this is one of the social costs of the persistent, greed-driven
effort to thrust wages ever downward. We are seeing this currently with
American businessmen firing Americans and then falsely claiming that they
aren't able to FIND Americans and then claiming that the nation must to
allow a large flood of foreign workers into the country and must continue to
willfully refuse to enforce immigration law -- all in an effort to drive down
wages. We'd better believe this is taking a toll on the
American family. Two parents having to work their heads off and not be there
for their kids is NOT the way life is supposed to be. Undoubtedly, those who
disseminate the idea that it IS the way life is supposed to be are the ones who
benefit by paying the kind of unfair wage that would necessitate that two
parents work their heads off day and night. It only is this way
because of GREED -- primarily on the part of the employers who therefore are
unwilling to pay their fellow Americans a fair wage.
It's not just a matter of having a job that will work with you. It's
also a matter of income.* Thousands of dollars in debt just to get
an associates...* Thousands more spent on software needed for the
profession...* Not enough income to lose hours at work to continue
education, to make enough to afford it all...* Not enough income to
marketing myself, etc.While we could start a family, we can't
afford the costs of building a career based on the main skill I've best
excelled in and do well enough to make a living on. My career path is a hard one
to get into. Very few people do it. But it's what I love, what I'm
good at, and I've invested my entire life into it. Unlike so many, I
won't give up on doing what I love.Now, we plan to start a
family anyway. But any advice on how to accomplish both is more than welcome.
This article only really showed me people who have jobs that are flexible. My
job already is flexible. That doesn't really address my problem.
Continued population increase is a serious problem for the planet and for
Utah's Wasatch Front. Those that choose to have less or even no children
should not be shunned or challenged for their decisions and behavior. The Utah Population and Environment Coalition's -- utahpopdotorg - recent
radio ads called It's OK to Plan drew considerable attention and interest
from the local population.The country's very poor regulations
and expectations in regard to maternal and paternal job and social benefits is
another factor.Our economy and society are in a great transition and
even transformation. The old assumptions and expectations are changing - perhaps
for the better.
@ Hutterite - American Fork, UT "It doesn't have to be that way, but
that appears to be the way it will be. And why not? If they don't want
kids, fine."Sure, what's wrong if NO ONE wanted kids?That's not a problem.That is, until we all die off.Oops....
A couple of comments:1 - Please stop blaming "greedy"
business owners and CEOs for being the root cause of why less people want to
have kids. If someone does not want to have kids, that is THEIR choice, not
some CEO's. I know lots of people who don't want to have kids because
they want a 72" flat screen TV and a new BMW in the driveway. I know of no
one who primarily blamed "greedy" CEOs. We need to take responsibility
for our choices.2 - Joseph Smith (yes, that Joseph Smith) once said
that there would come a day when, generally speaking, the only group of people
that would want to have kids were the Mormons.Just sayin'....