I appreciate what they attempt to do with the registry. However it is outdated
and is not serving the majority of it's users. It does not function to
reunite families as it should. imho. However there is great news!! Facebook is
doing just that! I urge others to come to facebook and search. Your family
members are waiting and using whatever means they need to locate you. DNA
testing, Sharing images, joining groups, you name it! Including this page, Utah
Adoption Search and Reunion found on facebook. Good Luck to all who are
searching! It is my hope and prayer that all those who are searching can be
found and let the healing begin.
Sounds all peaches and cream- but you don't mention the case of a woman and
her daughter that were both on the registry and not matched for over seven
years. The system has significant flaws right now- a. It is a word document
and is not filtered into a sorting software. B. You are depending on (based on
this article) one person who is only human, to match what is actually only about
500 people currently on the registry. C. The registry is not well known, hence
the only approx 500 people out of thousands who are looking. HB256 would take
the registry and build on it allowing funds to automate the registry and also
advertise! Yet a Deseret News author wrote negatively about the bill last week,
in fact they made false statements about HB256 assuming "Open" meant the
same thing as it does in an agreement between a birthmother and an agency. I
wish the news actually cared about covering the whole story- the full story- and
the truth of it all. The Registry- COULD use a little love.
There is much more to this story than you have. I am a birth mother who found
her child through this registry, but it was by accident. Birth mothers,
adoptee's and there adopted parents are not informed that this registry
exists, and overall it is a dismal failure. I would be happy to interview with
you about "THE REST OF THE STORY".
It's too bad that grandparents don't have rights to sign the registry.
Our daughter gave up three children despite our plea to let us raise them.
They would now be in their late teen and early twenties and we will never know
Thank you for a well written article. Thank you also to Carolyn Woodward for her
time and diligence to bring families back together. Everyone has a right to
know and find their birth parents. They have an identity and a yearning to know
WHO they are and where they came from originally. An adoptee, whether they
admit it or not, or register have a need to fill that question in their minds
and hearts. They feel like some part of themselves is missing. I
have compassion for friends who are adopted. They feel displaced, abandoned and
fight that feeling regardless of how wonderful and good their adoptive parents
have been. It is no reflection upon those loving parents who raised them to
have a desire to find and connect with their biological parents. It may
not be for everyone as was stated in the experiences in the article. But one
can sense the deep yearning to have those questions answered regarding their
biological parent. It is a missing piece of a puzzle wanting to be made
complete. I worked in adoptions and placements of the babies born
to amazing women in my eyes.
Thank-you for helping to put families back together. As an adoptee and birth
parent it's good to read about someone who helps to bring mothers and their
children back together.